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    Accountability,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Stress,  Time

    Us Against the World

    August 22, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Marriage is not a 50 / 50 proposition. The weight of responsibility in marriage will vary unevenly between husband and wife from day to day. But what do we do when the load is not balanced for a long time or when we both don’t have much left to give each other?

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    Nick and Jen

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    Marriage Wake-Up Calls

    August 7, 2023

    More Than a Piece of Paper

    July 19, 2021
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    Total Eclipse of the Heart

    April 15, 2024
  • Arguing Couple
    Communication,  Conflict,  Differences

    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Resentment, frustration, bitterness. Where do these come from? Sometimes, they’re a result of treating our spouse as “inferior” (due to our own attitude of superiority). Superiorities are something we all have, even if we don’t realize it. 

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    Ken and Janine

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    Tell Her She’s Pretty and Let Him Go Golfing

    January 18, 2021
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    Love Letters

    November 1, 2021
    Vulnerability

    Finding Joy Through Vulnerability

    August 28, 2023
  • mother and daughter as confidants
    Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Sex

    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021 / No Comments

      The focus of our last post, “Sex — Naughty or Nice” was our learned attitudes about sex. We hope you ventured into exploring your own attitudes about sexuality. If not, there is not time like the present to dive in. As promised, we will focus this post on Beyond Biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Radical non-Parenting

    November 9, 2020

    Moving – Marriage Tester or Marriage Bester

    September 11, 2018
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    The Drift 

    August 26, 2024
  • Accountability,  Communication,  Making Decisions,  Playfulness

    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021 / 1 Comment

    CHRIS: Michelle has the great responsibility of helping me to see the bright side of things.  While I sometimes get frustrated with her eternally rose-colored glasses, I also know that my negative outlook can use some pinkish tint every now and then.  Here’s some things we have done to boost my ability to see the bright side. 

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Are We Scrolling by Our Relationship?

    November 26, 2023

    Playing Games

    July 19, 2026
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    Total Eclipse of the Heart

    April 15, 2024
  • Positive advice on a napkin
    Communication,  Parenting,  Passion,  Sex

    Sex — Naughty or Nice?

    June 27, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Sexual Expression is Everywhere Think: TV, Billboards and Music videos. So, why do we struggle to express our sexuality until the kids are asleep, and the bedrooms shades drawn? Answer: Perhaps, we were taught sex was taboo. This is sexual sabotage, likely unintentional. But unless we rid ourselves of these ghosts from the past, we will pass them on to our children.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019
  • Trash Talk, arguing over chores
    Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Relatives

    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021 / No Comments

    Our first heated “discussion” as a married couple wasn’t about what people call the “important” stuff – our values, family, money, jobs, or kids. Instead, our first “couple argument” was a top of the lungs, door-slamming, Tupperware-throwing, window rattling discussion about – our trash cans. We weren’t discussing color, size, number, or shape of our trash cans. We both pretty much agreed that a trash can is a trash can and should definitely look like a trash can. No issues there. Our fight was about who, of the two of us, would be deemed (for eternity and thereafter) the primary trash can “dragger” each and every week – 52 times…

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    Ken and Janine

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    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021
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    The BEST of Your Life

    May 4, 2026

    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Taking the Easy Road

    June 7, 2021 / No Comments

    Marriage is hard work. Sometimes we make it harder than it needs to be. That’s why this week, we’re going to suggest a way to take the easy road.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023

    The #1 Communication Problem in Marriage

    May 2, 2022

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    January 9, 2021
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance

    Dear Younger Us

    May 17, 2021 / No Comments

    You don’t have to be married long before you look back at your dating days and reminisce. We got married at the ripe young age of 23 and had our first baby shortly thereafter. Our lives changed dramatically in a short time. Looking back, we don’t regret jumping into family life with both feet, but it’s fun to imagine now what we might have to say to us back then.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Body Language

    November 13, 2023

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019

    It’s Not About the Dress

    July 6, 2018
  • Communication,  Sex,  Stress

    Laughter & Sex… That’s What She Said

    May 10, 2021 / No Comments

    Laughter can make hardship more tolerable like the glue that holds a marriage together when everything else is falling apart.  Laughter is also a lot like sex.  Both are pleasurable, shed calories, build immunity, reduce stress and put a smile on your face all day.  Seriously!

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Walking Down Memory Lane

    November 7, 2021

    Getting More of What You Want in Your Marriage

    February 21, 2021

    The Elephant in the Living Room

    June 29, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Stress,  Time

    3 Steps to End the Bickering

    April 12, 2021 / 1 Comment

    Even the best marriages succumb to nit-picking over how to do the laundry or load the dishwasher.  We differ over asking or not asking for directions and bicker over who’s to blame for being late or how we spend money.  While these quarrels may seem trivial, in reality, they matter and getting to a solution beats bickering any day.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021

    Slamming Cupboard Doors

    August 28, 2018

    Getting More of What You Want in Your Marriage

    February 21, 2021
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