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  • Just Do It
    Communication,  Growth,  Making Decisions,  Time

    “Just Do It!”

    September 28, 2026 / No Comments

    Quit thinking about doing something for your marriage- Just Do It!

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    Ken and Janine

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    April 4, 2022

    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Stress,  Time

    Ready for a Marriage Check-up?

    February 16, 2026 / No Comments

    If someone asks, “How’s your marriage?” how would you answer? It’s hard to give an objective answer. This week, we offer a short quiz you can take to evaluate how things are going in your marriage. Before we can move toward the goal of a better marriage, we need to know where we are currently.  Doing this Marriage Check-up exercise helped us take stock of how we were doing. Here’s what we learned…  We had a couple areas where Ken’s scores were higher than Janine’s (or vice-versa) – Parenting and Spirituality. We agreed the area where we struggle the most as a couple was Conflict Resolution. This all led to some…

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    Ken and Janine

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    January 4, 2021

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    November 28, 2018
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    Love Letters

    November 1, 2021
  • To DO list with Take Time-out for US! Checked off
    Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Intimacy,  Making Decisions,  Time

    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie:  Let’s be honest—life gets busy. Between work, kids, errands, and the never-ending to-do list, it’s so easy for your marriage to slip down your list of priorities. You’re not alone if you’ve ever looked at your spouse at the end of a long day and realized you haven’t really connected, maybe not even had a real conversation, in days or even weeks. But here’s the thing – taking a time-out for your marriage isn’t just something that’s nice to do. It’s the foundation that keeps everything else in your life running smoothly.

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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Making Decisions,  Stress

    Decisions, Decisions

    November 17, 2025 / No Comments

    Learn a simplified decision-making process for married couples. When facing hard choices, remember that "we" come first. This article outlines how to pause, zoom out, and make important decisions together for a stronger marriage.

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    Ken and Janine

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    May 6, 2024
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    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021

    Removing the Invisibility Cloak

    October 23, 2023
  • Making Decisions

    SAYING YES

    September 21, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Sometimes it seems so easy to say “yes.”

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    Scott and Karen

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    July 7, 2025

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    January 3, 2022

    3 Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress

    November 14, 2022
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    Behaviors,  Communication,  Conflict,  Forgiveness,  Making Decisions

    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025 / No Comments

    John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship.  It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to  “be right” can often get in the way.  Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed.   This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively. 

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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

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    3 Life Lessons From the Movie ‘Wicked’

    December 9, 2024
  • Making Decisions

    Martha & Mary — 2 Gifts, One Love

    August 2, 2025 / No Comments

    We have been reflecting on the Gospel story of Martha and Mary (Luke 10:38-42). What can we learn from this famous (or infamous) encounter? As married couples we have different gifts, but One Love. We want to share our twist on this Gospel, focusing on the gift of One Love.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    March 31, 2025
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    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020
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    Differences,  Finances,  Making Decisions

    Money Matters

    July 7, 2025 / No Comments

    Let’s be honest. Money matters. When you get married, you’re not just sharing your Netflix password and your space—you’re also merging your bank accounts, bills, and spending habits. Money issues pop up all the time in married life. How you deal with finances together can make or break your happily ever after. Compatibility Counts Julie: We all have financial “baggage” or attitudes that affect our spending, from our upbringing to our personal experiences. John and I have very similar backgrounds. Coming from large families with a mom who stayed home to care for us when we were young meant that every penny counted. Neither of us were extravagant, and we were both savers.  When…

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    January 9, 2021

    What Happened to the Person I Married?

    January 20, 2020

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025
  • Spring cleaning
    Behaviors,  Decision to Love,  Growth,  Making Decisions,  Romance,  Transformation

    Spring Cleaning

    March 31, 2025 / 1 Comment

    JULIE In the wee hours of the morning of March 20, Spring quietly tiptoed in while we were sleeping!  And although the layer of snow we received later in the day suggested otherwise, another winter had passed.  The time for new life had begun, and with that also came Spring cleaning.

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    Loving Each Other in Spite of Our Differences

    April 4, 2022

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    March 3, 2025

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    March 9, 2026
  • Happiness,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance

    Should We Call It Quits??

    December 2, 2024 / No Comments

    A happy marriage is achievable despite challenges. Research shows divorce often doesn't lead to greater happiness, while perseverance can result in improved relationship satisfaction. Daily choices to love create positive change.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Lost that Lovin’ feeling?

    May 29, 2023

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    February 28, 2023
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    January 24, 2022
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