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Making Home a Safe Place
When our kids were very young, we had the good fortune of getting to know a couple with teens and adult children. Steve and Barb were a delight to be around, and one of the things that struck us the most about them was the way their love seemed to inspire a welcoming atmosphere in their home. We’d be sitting with them chatting, and see teenagers wandering through, laughing, and raiding the pantry for snacks. Barb would point out – oh, that one is ours, and those other two are friends. Talking about it later, we decided we wanted our home to be like Steve and Barb’s, a safe place…
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Stages
Having kids comes with stages. There’s the infant-baby stage, the toddler stage, the school-age stage, the teenage stage, and the adult stage. Each of these stages presents its own set of challenges in our married relationship.
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Hangry?
The challenges of caring for young grandchildren can cause stress and exhaustion, which can strain a relationship. It's important to recognize triggers that impact patience and communication. Empathy, forgiveness, and the importance of healing are important in times of stress.
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A Toast
John: Well, it finally happened! The wedding of the century (at least OUR century so far) arrived and now our nuclear family of 5 has become 6! The look on our son’s face was priceless as his beautiful beaming bride turned the corner, walking down the aisle toward him and their future together. A hint of the boy he once was shone through the giant smile of the incredible man he’d become, We knew this would be an emotional day, one filled with joy as our son pledged a lifetime of love and commitment to his beloved and she to him. We weren’t prepared for how deep those emotions would…
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The Empty Nest Revisited
With the holidays right around the corner, our empty nest is about to be repopulated as all of our kids come home for Christmas. While we love having them here, it can cause tension and stress when they forget they are adults and fall back into their familiar patterns as siblings and kids. How do we deal with this so that we can keep the peace in the nest and make merry memories together?
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Was it Bad Parenting or Making Memories?
A few years ago, we watched as our daughter, Taryn, spent an exorbitant amount of money on a Halloween costume. When asked why, she said that we had ruined every Halloween by having her be creative and come up with a costume, rather than getting a store-bought one. Upon reflection, we wondered, was it bad parenting or making memories? Thanksgiving: When Taryn was five, she was watching Sesame Street as Chris and I were in the kitchen preparing Thanksgiving dinner. She walked in the kitchen just as Chris was pulling the turkey out of the oven to baste. He said, “Wow, that’s a big bird.” When we turned around, Taryn’s eyes were full of tears…
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Boomerang Baby
“Mom and Dad, would it be ok if I moved home for a while?” These words were the start of a brand-new chapter in our life. Good-bye empty nest, hello boomerang baby.
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Little Things
JULIE “Little Things Mean a Lot” was one of my mom’s favorite songs. It starts off like this: “Blow me a kiss from across the roomSay I look nice when I’m notTouch my hair as you pass my chairLittle things mean a lot” These timeless lyrics are spot on – little things DO mean a lot. I do many little things for John throughout the day. I can make John’s coffee. I can scratch his head. I can make his favorite meal for dinner. I can put my phone down and listen when he tells me about his day. All of these are little things that when done with great…
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Fair is Not Necessarily Equal
A classic line out of any child’s mouth is “It’s not fair!” Children use this line to cover everything from chores to birthday parties to bedtimes. It’s a comparison game, but in the end, fair isn’t necessarily equal.
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Married Couples: Are We Too Busy?
We often find our identity in what we accomplish. Our activities and responsibilities can build up until we are crushed beneath them. Are we so busy that we miss out on beauty, relationship, and belonging? Have we become ‘human doings’ rather than ‘human beings.’ It’s hard to grow our marriage if we’re too busy to BE with each other. Busy Families JANINE: If you grew up on a farm like I did, you might remember the ‘breakneck’ pace of harvest or planting time. During those busy days, both Dad and Mom were working intense hours and running on little sleep. This extraordinary pace was for the short-term and my parents knew…
