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Prioritizing US
Julie: Grandkids, family activities, visiting sick relatives and friends, volunteer work, visiting our kids, jobs, the house, the bills – life has a million distractions. It’s so easy to let our lenses of love get out of focus and prioritize these other things over our sexual relationship. Our sexual flame flickers as we behave more like roommates than lovers.
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Hurkle-durkling As Emotional Foreplay
Whether it be a lazy mid-April morning with a blanket of snow or a 60-degree day in December, any day is a perfect day to Hurkle-durkle. Think of it as Emotional Foreplay which begins as soon as we open our eyes to each other at the onset of a new day.
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3 Steps to Restore Sexual Intimacy
Whoever said the way to a man’s heart was through his stomach might have flunked anatomy or maybe geography. Sexual intimacy is a key component of a healthy marriage, and it has its challenges in every stage of life. When we hit a dry spell, we have used 3 steps to restore our sexual intimacy and avoid the slippery slope.
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The Healing Power of Touch
A previous blog explored a super power we all have within us – the Super Power of Affirmation. But did you know that you possess another Super Power? It’s the Healing Power of Touch. Holy Hole in a Doughnut, Batman! Bet you didn’t know you had all that in you!
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Why Sex Matters in Marriage
For many married couples, physical intimacy gradually decreases over time. Busy schedules, stress, or feelings of guilt or embarrassment can all contribute to a decline in this vital part of a healthy marriage. But what if we told you that prioritizing physical touch isn’t just about pleasure, but about strengthening your marriage and revitalizing your love? Sex matters in marriage. What’s the Big Deal? Janine: For a LONG time, I really didn’t understand how significant and important physical intimacy is. Making love was the last thing on my list of priorities, and I just didn’t understand why it seemed so important to Ken. When you were growing up, did you get the message that sex was…
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When In Doubt, Just Get Naked
When we were newlyweds, we heard another couple (married much longer than us) quip a line of advice: “when in doubt, just get naked.” It sounded good to us at the time, and it has only become more relevant since then. Let us explain…
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Who Wants More Sex?
In pretty much every marriage, there’s one spouse who has a stronger sex drive than the other… Our Journey Ken: Typically, it’s us men who are more interested in sex: that’s how it is for me. I remember attending a marriage conference long ago where a woman raised her hand to ask a question. She explained that SHE wanted to make love more often than her husband, and this was a struggle for them. I couldn’t believe it. I wondered what it would be like to be married to a woman who wanted more sex. Janine: For years, I just didn’t understand why sex was such a big deal. Once…
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Boomerang Baby
“Mom and Dad, would it be ok if I moved home for a while?” These words were the start of a brand-new chapter in our life. Good-bye empty nest, hello boomerang baby.
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7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life
Want to improve your sex life? Don’t underestimate how important your sex life is to health of your marriage. This week we’re re-posting one of our popular posts from July 2019 on this little-talked-about topic. Here are 7 tips to improve your sex life…. 1. Spice it up Be a flirt. Read a good book on sex for married couples. Plan in a little “variety”. Text your spouse or leave them a note to let them know you can’t wait to be alone together. 2. Share the Same Bedtime It’s a rule we made when we got married: we go to bed together each night. I (Janine) am a night owl. Ken gets up…
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4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit
Julie – It finally happened. After two years of extreme caution, COVID finally found us. First John, then me. John? Like a bad cold that lingered. Me? Pretty much the sickest I’ve ever been in my life and still battling fatigue a month later. We didn’t kiss each other for a couple of weeks, much less think about making love. Heck, my sleeping was so erratic and restless that we didn’t even sleep in the same bed for weeks. Physical or mental illness, childbirth, surgery, kids who constantly want to sleep with mommy and daddy, changing hormones, or the death of a close family member can wreak havoc on the sexual…
