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Happy 250th birthday, America!
Have a safe and fun celebration – from The Couples Post Family to yours.
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What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language?
Is The 5 Love Languages outdated? Not a chance. See how this practical tool is still saving, changing, and boosting marriages today—plus, resources to find your own language.
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Sacrificing vs. Generosity in Marriage: A Paradigm Shift
Sacrificing in marriage can lead to resentment. A paradigm shift to reciprocal acts of generosity can help to heal resentment.
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The Whole is Greater than the Sum of its Parts
Matt We’ve all heard that classic, Aristotle quote: “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.” While it may be deeply philosophical, it is also the absolute best way to describe the hilarious, chaotic reality of living with another human being. Gail When you get married, you stop being two independent, functioning adults. Instead, you merge into a singular, bizarre ecosystem where the final product is entirely different from the individual ingredients. Here is what happens when two parts become a “whole” – and why the math makes absolutely no sense. Before we combined forces, we were perfectly rational, capable single people. Let’s look at each of us…
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If you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain
Dolly Parton once said, “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”
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Memorial Day
We at the Couples Post are grateful to all of the men and women in the armed forces who have given their lives for our freedom. We hope your families all have a great Memorial Day and we will see you next week for another post.
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Mistakes Made During Conflict
Chris: Recently, Michelle and I were having a conversation about how we spend our free time. Actually, the argument started when Michelle asked, “What do you want to do this weekend?” It quickly escalated into an argument. Research on couple relationships shows that there are three common mistakes made during an argument. Here’s what it looked like for us. Mistake #1: You Change! It is easy for me to have a long list of what Michelle could and should do differently and a brief list of my own shortcomings. Unfortunately, pointing out Michelle’s flaws does not encourage change. Typically, when I ramble off these to her, she becomes defensive. Michelle: Chris said, “You…
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Running Up A Downward Escalator
Ken: Last week we were making our way through the airport with our carry-on bags. As we started down an escalator, I suddenly remembered I left my phone lying in the bathroom at the top of the escalator. In that split second, my only thought was that someone would find it and snatch it. Not today! I turned around with my suitcase, pushed Janine aside as I started trying to run up those steps that were propelling us downward. I fell near the top step but bounced up quickly. With a heroic leap, like a running back jumping into the end-zone, I made it to the top bruised but victorious. The wide-eyed onlookers asked if I was okay, wondering “what’s up with this guy”? Janine: One minute we were casually riding down the…
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The BEST of Your Life
John: “Today is the first day of the BEST of your life.” I retired last Friday after 41 years of working in the IT field. That quote was on the card I received from the team I led. While it is certainly appropriate for retirement, it also rings true in our everyday life. Every day, we can choose to live our best life, regardless of the changes, circumstances, and chaos around us.
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Hurkle-durkling As Emotional Foreplay
Whether it be a lazy mid-April morning with a blanket of snow or a 60-degree day in December, any day is a perfect day to Hurkle-durkle. Think of it as Emotional Foreplay which begins as soon as we open our eyes to each other at the onset of a new day.
