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    Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Romance,  Sex

    The Game of Life

    July 12, 2021 / No Comments

    In the game of life, even with the best laid plans, things going awry isn’t just a possibility – it’s a probability.  It’s how we change the game plan that determines whether we turn it into a touchdown or a turnover.  Here’s the play-by-play of our recent weekend watching our twin 8-year-old nieces: Game plan: Camping in the back yard, complete with campfire and s’mores Actual play: 3 days straight of rain Punt: Making popcorn and watching a movie together Game plan: Going for a big explore in a nearby park and checking out the new playground equipment Actual play: 3 days straight of rain Punt: Crafts and having a…

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    John and Julie

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    November 15, 2020
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    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021

    Anger, Over the Top

    July 15, 2019
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    Communication,  Parenting,  Passion,  Sex

    Sex — Naughty or Nice?

    June 27, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Sexual Expression is Everywhere Think: TV, Billboards and Music videos. So, why do we struggle to express our sexuality until the kids are asleep, and the bedrooms shades drawn? Answer: Perhaps, we were taught sex was taboo. This is sexual sabotage, likely unintentional. But unless we rid ourselves of these ghosts from the past, we will pass them on to our children.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    August 7, 2022

    Intentional Marriage — 50 Ways

    October 14, 2019

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Taking the Easy Road

    June 7, 2021 / No Comments

    Marriage is hard work. Sometimes we make it harder than it needs to be. That’s why this week, we’re going to suggest a way to take the easy road.

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    Nick and Jen

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    November 9, 2020
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    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022

    Parenting as a Team

    March 16, 2020
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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021 / No Comments

      With June just around the corner, it’s time once again for wedding season to begin.  Whether you’re just starting your marriage journey or you’ve been on it for decades, couples can always use a piece of great advice – that’s why you’re reading this, right?  In honor of our 30th wedding anniversary, we thought we’d pass along 30 for 30 – one tidbit of advice we’ve discovered for each year of marriage: 

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    John and Julie

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    Boomerang Baby

    June 20, 2022
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    Co-parenting My Child

    October 11, 2021

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019
  • Communication,  Sex,  Stress

    Laughter & Sex… That’s What She Said

    May 10, 2021 / No Comments

    Laughter can make hardship more tolerable like the glue that holds a marriage together when everything else is falling apart.  Laughter is also a lot like sex.  Both are pleasurable, shed calories, build immunity, reduce stress and put a smile on your face all day.  Seriously!

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Tip of the Iceberg

    October 2, 2023

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019

    Marriage: Our Security in the Chaos

    April 5, 2020
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    5 Things Men Want

    March 1, 2021 / No Comments

    1. RESPECT: (KEN): When a man is asked, ‘Would you rather be respected or loved?’ most would choose being respected.  In his book Love and Respect, Dr. E. Eggerichs explains this tendency. (JANINE): For years, I didn’t appreciate how important it was to Ken that I treat him with respect.  I also didn’t understand how hurtful it was when I disrespected him.  When I show Ken respect (by affirming his decisions, avoiding sarcasm or by not using a demeaning tone) it translates (for him) into feeling ‘loved.’  Another way to say this is: when a man is disrespected, he receives the message he is NOT loved. 2. SEX: 

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    Ken and Janine

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    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020
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    Making Up is Hard to Do

    August 28, 2022

    The Elephant in the Living Room

    June 29, 2020
  • Communication,  Sex

    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021 / No Comments

    Happy New Year to all!  We are so grateful that 2020 is clearly in our rear-view mirror.  What a relief.  The start of a new year is traditionally set aside for reflection and resolutions.  For us, 2021 was no different. We often make couple as well as individual resolutions.  Stress and busyness, age and life in general had cooled our sexual relationship to a slow simmer.  Our 2021 goal is :  “Some is good.  More is better!”  Planned or spontaneous — all is good! Let the conversation begin.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    March 21, 2022

    Be Ready

    July 11, 2022

    5 Things Men Want

    March 1, 2021
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex,  Time

    10 Things Women Want

    December 7, 2020 / No Comments

    1) Learn her “Love Language:” And speak it often! (Learn more: What Language Are You Speaking? ) Janine’s love language is “Acts of Service.” So, when I vacuum or do dishes or cook, it fills up her ‘love tank’ – her mood brightens and there’s a whole different vibe between us.  I can tell I’ve found a direct path to her heart.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
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    F.I.N.E.

    September 6, 2021
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    Is There Technoference in Your Marriage?

    June 13, 2022
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020 / No Comments

    Why are we writing about sex again?  Sex in marriage is more important than most people think.  It’s mysterious. There are a lot of “layers” and complexities to this whole topic…. read on…

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    Ken and Janine

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    How to FIX Your Spouse

    July 12, 2020

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020

    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020 / No Comments

    “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”  – William Shakespeare We all enter marriage with “sex-pectations” – our ideas of what our sex life will be like.  When “we can’t get enough of each other” gradually deteriorates to “not tonight,” we find ourselves feeling disappointed, hurt, even un-loved. BUT…it doesn’t have to stay that way. 

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    Ken and Janine

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    Unmet Needs

    May 21, 2019

    The Benefit of the Doubt

    August 31, 2020

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    August 7, 2022
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