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  • a good time and a good story
    Behaviors,  Resilience

    A Good Time AND a Good Story

    August 17, 2026 / No Comments

    Ahhhhhh…the crackle of the campfire, the smell of pine trees, the stars stretching out across the sky – for us, camping in the great outdoors is the ultimate escape. But let’s be honest – @#$% happens and Mother Nature loves a good laugh. Over the years, we’ve endured raccoons robbing us blind, strangers stealing our cooler, our tents literally floating – the list goes on.  As our niece likes to say, “It’s either a good time or a good story.”

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    John and Julie

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    Family Ties

    July 6, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie: We’ve just had the privilege of living in the funny, dramatic, wildly unpredictable world of our 13-year-old twin nieces as we took them camping with us.  We’ve taken them for a weekend each year so that John’s sister and our brother-in-law can have time to reconnect and focus on just them (plus it’s fun for us!).  It’s something we look forward to and that has helped strengthen our family ties not only with our nieces, but also our siblings. 

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    Happy 250th birthday, America!

    June 30, 2026 / No Comments

    Have a safe and fun celebration – from The Couples Post Family to yours.

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  • live your best life
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    The BEST of Your Life

    May 4, 2026 / No Comments

    John:  “Today is the first day of the BEST of your life.”  I retired last Friday after 41 years of working in the IT field.  That quote was on the card I received from the team I led.  While it is certainly appropriate for retirement, it also rings true in our everyday life.  Every day, we can choose to live our best life, regardless of the changes, circumstances, and chaos around us. 

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    Marriage – the Olympics of Relationships

    February 23, 2026 / 2 Comments

    Julie: John and I have really enjoyed watching the Olympics these past couple of weeks. Medals are won by fractions of a second. Partnerships are tested under pressure. Expectations run high. There is disappointment and elation. Marriage is the Olympics of Relationships. Both require preparation, endurance, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to something bigger than yourself.

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    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie:  Let’s be honest—life gets busy. Between work, kids, errands, and the never-ending to-do list, it’s so easy for your marriage to slip down your list of priorities. You’re not alone if you’ve ever looked at your spouse at the end of a long day and realized you haven’t really connected, maybe not even had a real conversation, in days or even weeks. But here’s the thing – taking a time-out for your marriage isn’t just something that’s nice to do. It’s the foundation that keeps everything else in your life running smoothly.

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    Little Things Mean a Lot

    December 1, 2025 / No Comments

    “Little Things Mean a Lot” was one of my mom’s favorite songs.  It starts off like this: “Blow me a kiss from across the room,Say I look nice when I’m not,Touch my hair as you pass my chair,Little things mean a lot.” These timeless lyrics are spot on – little things DO mean a lot.

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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 24, 2025 / No Comments

    Happy Thanksgiving from The Couples Post family to yours. We wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with family, food, and fun!

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  • World turned upside-down
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    The World Turned Upside-Down

    October 13, 2025 / 2 Comments

    September 11, 2001.  March 25, 2016.  November 24, 2024.  September 28, 2025.  These are days when time stood still and our world suddenly turned upside-down.  There have been others, for sure, but these have been some of the most difficult days we’ve had to deal with in our 34 years of marriage. Julie: September 11 needs no explanation.  March 25 is the day my mom took her last breath after 3 months in the ICU after a failed surgery.  On November 24, John’s dad lost his battle with Alzheimer’s.  And September 28 was the day we were told to leave our church and get home to safety as an active…

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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025 / No Comments

    John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship.  It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to  “be right” can often get in the way.  Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed.   This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively. 

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