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  • live your best life
    Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Finances,  Listening

    The BEST of Your Life

    May 4, 2026 / No Comments

    John:  “Today is the first day of the BEST of your life.”  I retired last Friday after 41 years of working in the IT field.  That quote was on the card I received from the team I led.  While it is certainly appropriate for retirement, it also rings true in our everyday life.  Every day, we can choose to live our best life, regardless of the changes, circumstances, and chaos around us. 

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    Marriage – the Olympics of Relationships

    February 23, 2026 / 2 Comments

    Julie: John and I have really enjoyed watching the Olympics these past couple of weeks. Medals are won by fractions of a second. Partnerships are tested under pressure. Expectations run high. There is disappointment and elation. Marriage is the Olympics of Relationships. Both require preparation, endurance, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to something bigger than yourself.

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    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie:  Let’s be honest—life gets busy. Between work, kids, errands, and the never-ending to-do list, it’s so easy for your marriage to slip down your list of priorities. You’re not alone if you’ve ever looked at your spouse at the end of a long day and realized you haven’t really connected, maybe not even had a real conversation, in days or even weeks. But here’s the thing – taking a time-out for your marriage isn’t just something that’s nice to do. It’s the foundation that keeps everything else in your life running smoothly.

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    Little Things Mean a Lot

    December 1, 2025 / No Comments

    “Little Things Mean a Lot” was one of my mom’s favorite songs.  It starts off like this: “Blow me a kiss from across the room,Say I look nice when I’m not,Touch my hair as you pass my chair,Little things mean a lot.” These timeless lyrics are spot on – little things DO mean a lot.

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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 24, 2025 / No Comments

    Happy Thanksgiving from The Couples Post family to yours. We wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with family, food, and fun!

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    The World Turned Upside-Down

    October 13, 2025 / 2 Comments

    September 11, 2001.  March 25, 2016.  November 24, 2024.  September 28, 2025.  These are days when time stood still and our world suddenly turned upside-down.  There have been others, for sure, but these have been some of the most difficult days we’ve had to deal with in our 34 years of marriage. Julie: September 11 needs no explanation.  March 25 is the day my mom took her last breath after 3 months in the ICU after a failed surgery.  On November 24, John’s dad lost his battle with Alzheimer’s.  And September 28 was the day we were told to leave our church and get home to safety as an active…

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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025 / No Comments

    John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship.  It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to  “be right” can often get in the way.  Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed.   This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively. 

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    Money Matters

    July 7, 2025 / No Comments

    Let’s be honest. Money matters. When you get married, you’re not just sharing your Netflix password and your space—you’re also merging your bank accounts, bills, and spending habits. Money issues pop up all the time in married life. How you deal with finances together can make or break your happily ever after. Compatibility Counts Julie: We all have financial “baggage” or attitudes that affect our spending, from our upbringing to our personal experiences. John and I have very similar backgrounds. Coming from large families with a mom who stayed home to care for us when we were young meant that every penny counted. Neither of us were extravagant, and we were both savers.  When…

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    Everything We Need to Know We Learned…From a Baby? 

    May 19, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Grandparenthood has been all we dreamed it would be – and more.  We have loved every moment!  Our grandson is nearly 7 months old and changing rapidly.  He is learning new things every day.   As he lay peacefully sleeping in my arms recharging his little batteries, it dawned on me that he isn’t the only one learning.  In many ways, the student has become the teacher. We have learned so much from our little guy! 

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    Spring Cleaning

    March 31, 2025 / 1 Comment

    JULIE In the wee hours of the morning of March 20, Spring quietly tiptoed in while we were sleeping!  And although the layer of snow we received later in the day suggested otherwise, another winter had passed.  The time for new life had begun, and with that also came Spring cleaning.

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