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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Got G.A.M.E?

    November 15, 2021 / No Comments

    Chris: I am a golfer. I will golf anytime, any course and with almost anyone. But I am a golfer with G.A.M.E.  Allow us to explain. G is for Green Jacket.  In golf, the Green Jacket is awarded to the winner of the Masters.  In our marriage, I think of the Green Jacket as our wedding day.  While I didn’t actually wear a green jacket, I was a true winner the day Michelle said, “I do.”   There are only 53 men lucky enough to wear the coveted jacket.  Considering that 90-100 people compete each year over the last 83 years, there’s no wonder these jackets are so special.  Similarly, when I consider that in the 3.9 billion…

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Walking Down Memory Lane

    November 7, 2021 / No Comments

    Chances are, when you met your spouse, you were already adults. As adults, we are a cumulation of the years we’ve spent living. Our spouse has most likely not known us that entire time. How intrigued are you when you hear stories of your spouse from before you met?

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    Nick and Jen

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  • Boy Send Girl love letters by paper airplane
    Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Playfulness,  Romance

    Love Letters

    November 1, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Julie I recently rediscovered a box of love letters that my parents wrote to each other. My dad had given them to me after my mom died.  My dad was drafted into the army when he and my mom were still newlyweds.  There was no email, no texting, no Facetime.  There was only a brief Sunday phone call and love letters Monday through Saturday. These letters were mostly about details of daily life, but they were also filled with expressions of love and longing to be together again. Their arrival was a daily reminder of their love and the commitment they had made to each other. 

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    John and Julie

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  • Communication,  Stress

    Letters to Joy

    October 4, 2021 / No Comments

    October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  In July of 2015, Michelle’s best friend, Joy, was diagnosed with breast cancer.  She shared the news via text and after sharing the details she said, “I love you and can’t talk about it right now.  Call me later…” Michelle: My response,  “This is when living 1,000 miles away becomes really inconvenient.  If I were there, I would be taking you to appointments, sitting with you just because and everything in between.  I’m here.  I will figure out what to do.” As I hit SEND, I had an idea.     Joy, I have this crazy plan.  Each week, I am going to send you a package like this filled with seven days…

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Communication,  Uncategorized

    F.I.N.E.

    September 6, 2021 / No Comments

    We all know the scenario . . . How was your day? Fine. Yours? O.K. (Silence . . .). Where’s the remote? There’s no shorter lie than F.I.N.E.

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  • Communication,  Differences,  Making Decisions

    Just

    August 30, 2021 / No Comments

    Michelle: When our daughter was in the second grade she was asked to write about what her parents did for a living. She wrote three (front and back) pages about Chris’s job as a research scientist. She went on and on about the inner-workings of his day to day life in the lab, entering data and what his research could lead to.  As I read, I was proud of the work and influence that Chris had on her and I couldn’t wait to read about my own. However, I began feeling concerned as the pages were becoming fewer and fewer. Then, there it was. The last line of her paper, “And…

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    Accountability,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Stress,  Time

    Us Against the World

    August 22, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Marriage is not a 50 / 50 proposition. The weight of responsibility in marriage will vary unevenly between husband and wife from day to day. But what do we do when the load is not balanced for a long time or when we both don’t have much left to give each other?

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    Recreating Your Relationship

    August 16, 2021 / No Comments

    JOHN: We just returned from two separate camping trips about a week apart. The first was the annual family camping trip with our young adult kids in the tent with us and 17 members of the extended family on nearby sites.  The second was just the two of us. Wow, what a difference! While we love spending 24/7 time with our kids and extended family, we also love the calm and freedom that come with camping as a couple. It reminds us fondly of our early years together.

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    Communication,  Conflict,  Differences

    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Resentment, frustration, bitterness. Where do these come from? Sometimes, they’re a result of treating our spouse as “inferior” (due to our own attitude of superiority). Superiorities are something we all have, even if we don’t realize it. 

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    Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Sex

    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021 / No Comments

      The focus of our last post, “Sex — Naughty or Nice” was our learned attitudes about sex. We hope you ventured into exploring your own attitudes about sexuality. If not, there is not time like the present to dive in. As promised, we will focus this post on Beyond Biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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