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Sunrise, Sunset
As we look back on 30 years of marriage, we can see the ways our relationship has been like a journey from sunrise to sunset.
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Relationships: Why Your Circle Matters
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn Whether we realize it or not, the people we spend time with are shaping our thoughts, habits, and even our values. When we spend time with positive, purpose-driven people, we find ourselves growing in that direction. But the opposite is also true: if we surround ourselves with people who are negative, cynical, or self-destructive, we’ll drift that way without even realizing it. The Influence of Friends on Marriage A Pew Research study found that people were 75% more likely to divorce if a close friend or family member divorced. Even having a friend of…
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The World Turned Upside-Down
September 11, 2001. March 25, 2016. November 24, 2024. September 28, 2025. These are days when time stood still and our world suddenly turned upside-down. There have been others, for sure, but these have been some of the most difficult days we’ve had to deal with in our 34 years of marriage. Julie: September 11 needs no explanation. March 25 is the day my mom took her last breath after 3 months in the ICU after a failed surgery. On November 24, John’s dad lost his battle with Alzheimer’s. And September 28 was the day we were told to leave our church and get home to safety as an active…
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Into the Weeds Naked
Solving recurring arguments involves setting boundaries, getting the root of the problem with gentleness. Let down your defenses, nurture your relationship and fight naked@
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Love Goals
Chris: They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions. We would say that the road to an unfulfilling relationship, may be paved with those same intentions. Does this sound familiar? You intend to be romantic, caring, sexy or fun but, you’re too tired, you come home late from work or you just simply forget. Is it because you’re thoughtless, because you care more about your job or because you have the romantic aptitude of a sponge? Maybe, but it is more likely that you are human, with good intentions. Michelle: But intentions are never really enough. I have ADHD. I can have a really great idea to…
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SAYING YES
Sometimes it seems so easy to say “yes.”
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Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice
Some time ago, we wrote about the importance of being aware of the Tone of Voice we use with our spouse. The gist of the post was that our Tone of Voice is the key culprit that begins most disagreements, hurts, and fights between spouses. We want to revisit this important topic and provide some additional helpful hints we’ve learned along the way.
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To Be, or Not To Be…Right?
John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship. It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to “be right” can often get in the way. Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed. This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively.
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Happy Labor Day!
We at The Couples Post celebrate all the hard workers in our country whose effort benefits all of us in so many ways. However you’re celebrating Labor Day, we hope you have a wonderful one and we’ll be back next week with another post.
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Haven’t we had this fight before?
Jen: Life, kids, work and extra-curricular activities suck up so much of our energy each day, that when it comes to interacting with each other, we are often at the end of our rope. When we are having a disagreement we’ve had more than once, I feel worn down and don’t want to deal with it.
