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  • Accountability,  Behaviors,  Communication,  Differences

    We Are More Than a Single Story

    December 12, 2022 / No Comments

    Michelle: Recently for work, we watched a TED talk titled, “The Danger of a Single Story”.   The presenter, a Nigerian author, shared that she left Nigeria as a 19-year-old, to attend a university in the United States.  Her roommate knew, before they met, her age and where she was from.  When they met for the first time, her surprised roommate asked her where she learned to speak English so well.  She responded, “Well, English is the official language of Nigeria.”  Her roommate also asked her if she had any recordings of the tribal music that they listen to.  The author shared that she tremendously disappointed her roommate when she produced a tape of Mariah Carey.  Her roommate had…

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    Chris and Michelle

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  • Differences,  Making Decisions

    Holiday Traditions

    December 4, 2022 / 1 Comment

    ‘Tis the holiday season, full of hope, joy, and expectation. For many of us, it’s the perfect time of year to have expectations clash with reality and make little grinches of all of us. No! There must be a way to see Christmas is coming. With Jen in her kerchief and Nick in his cap, we soon settle down for a short jaunt into… holiday traditions.

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  • Differences,  Honesty,  Stress

    You Don’t Bring Me Flowers 💐

    October 23, 2022 / No Comments

    There’s an old Barbara Streisand / Neil Diamond song “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers” that sometimes hops to mind when we’re in a rough patch or we see other couples we know in a rough spot. Who would know how much a simple gift can impact your relationship as a couple? But beware! Even bringing flowers home can be more complicated than you’d expect.

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  • Communication,  Differences

    I Can’t Change My Spouse

    August 7, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Be honest. How many of us find ourselves wondering “how much better would my marriage be, if not for the obvious shortcomings of the person I’m married to?” If only I could change my spouse! But the hard truth is, I can’t.

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    Accountability,  Differences,  Listening,  Perseverance

    What is the Secret to a Happy Marriage?

    February 27, 2022 / No Comments

    Most people don’t start out in marriage thinking “This could be fun for a while, but once it’s not I’ll move on.” When you get married it’s exciting and romantic and fun and interesting. But no marriage is free from challenges and disagreements. There is no magic finish line where there are no challenges in our marriage. The temptation to think such a place exists is one of the biggest dangers of all, because it sets you up for failure.

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    December 12, 2022
  • Decision to Love,  Differences

    Our “One of a Kind” Marriage

    January 31, 2022 / 2 Comments

    Our marriage is one of a kind. While we’re two people who have come from different places, we put together our past and present influences to become something new. Looking Inside My Family of Origin Jen: Family of origin has had a strong influence on our marriage. My parents stayed married throughout my childhood. I saw elements of disharmony, but since my parents were still together, I brushed off any worry. When I was in college, my parents divorced. The disharmony had gotten worse over time, and I figured this must be the natural progression of marriage. I met Nick not long after my parents split, and we got serious…

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  • Communication,  Differences,  Making Decisions

    Just

    August 30, 2021 / No Comments

    Michelle: When our daughter was in the second grade she was asked to write about what her parents did for a living. She wrote three (front and back) pages about Chris’s job as a research scientist. She went on and on about the inner-workings of his day to day life in the lab, entering data and what his research could lead to.  As I read, I was proud of the work and influence that Chris had on her and I couldn’t wait to read about my own. However, I began feeling concerned as the pages were becoming fewer and fewer. Then, there it was. The last line of her paper, “And…

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    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Resentment, frustration, bitterness. Where do these come from? Sometimes, they’re a result of treating our spouse as “inferior” (due to our own attitude of superiority). Superiorities are something we all have, even if we don’t realize it. 

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    October 28, 2019
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    Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Relatives

    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021 / No Comments

    Our first heated “discussion” as a married couple wasn’t about what people call the “important” stuff – our values, family, money, jobs, or kids. Instead, our first “couple argument” was a top of the lungs, door-slamming, Tupperware-throwing, window rattling discussion about – our trash cans. We weren’t discussing color, size, number, or shape of our trash cans. We both pretty much agreed that a trash can is a trash can and should definitely look like a trash can. No issues there. Our fight was about who, of the two of us, would be deemed (for eternity and thereafter) the primary trash can “dragger” each and every week – 52 times…

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    November 1, 2021

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  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Taking the Easy Road

    June 7, 2021 / No Comments

    Marriage is hard work. Sometimes we make it harder than it needs to be. That’s why this week, we’re going to suggest a way to take the easy road.

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