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  • Loving Each Other in Spite of Our Differences
    Behaviors,  Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences

    Loving Each Other in Spite of Our Differences

    April 4, 2022 / No Comments

    It’s no secret.  We are different, two unique individuals formed from different backgrounds and experiences.  While this frequently leads to us complementing each other, it can sometimes cause us to clash.  Loving each other in spite of our differences is a decision we can make to break through these times of conflict.

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    John and Julie

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    Passion,  Sex

    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    March 28, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Want to improve your sex life? Don’t underestimate how important your sex life is to health of your marriage. This week we’re re-posting one of our popular posts from July 2019 on this little-talked-about topic.  Here are 7 tips to improve your sex life…. 1. Spice it up Be a flirt. Read a good book on sex for married couples. Plan in a little “variety”. Text your spouse or leave them a note to let them know you can’t wait to be alone together. 2. Share the Same Bedtime It’s a rule we made when we got married: we go to bed together each night. I (Janine) am a night owl. Ken gets up…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex

    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Julie – It finally happened.  After two years of extreme caution, COVID finally found us.  First John, then me.  John?  Like a bad cold that lingered.  Me?  Pretty much the sickest I’ve ever been in my life and still battling fatigue a month later.  We didn’t kiss each other for a couple of weeks, much less think about making love.  Heck, my sleeping was so erratic and restless that we didn’t even sleep in the same bed for weeks. Physical or mental illness, childbirth, surgery, kids who constantly want to sleep with mommy and daddy, changing hormones, or the death of a close family member can wreak havoc on the sexual…

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    John and Julie

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    Teamwork in Marriage: Ditch the Scorekeeping Habit

    March 14, 2022 / No Comments

    Scorekeeping never wins in marriage. Why? Because no one wants to sleep with a Loser. Ditch the scorekeeping habit and you both score a win. Teamwork takes the gold.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    March 6, 2023

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    May 5, 2025
  • Accountability,  Behaviors,  Communication,  Honesty

    Candid Chris

    March 7, 2022 / No Comments

    Michelle: When I was teaching third grade, one of the assignments I gave my students was to create and write about their own superhero.  One of my students, wrote about Buttered Toast Man. A three-pager about a guy whose job it was to save the world from dry toast.  What my students didn’t know is that I live with my very own superhero, my husband, Candid Chris. His superpower: tell people hard-hitting truths that they might not want to hear and probably want to acknowledge even less.  If I were writing his superhero story, I would include the time that Candid Chris said to our neighbor, “Sure your new car is great, but it…

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    November 26, 2023

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    April 25, 2022
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    Accountability,  Differences,  Listening,  Perseverance

    What is the Secret to a Happy Marriage?

    February 27, 2022 / No Comments

    Most people don’t start out in marriage thinking “This could be fun for a while, but once it’s not I’ll move on.” When you get married it’s exciting and romantic and fun and interesting. But no marriage is free from challenges and disagreements. There is no magic finish line where there are no challenges in our marriage. The temptation to think such a place exists is one of the biggest dangers of all, because it sets you up for failure.

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    May 8, 2022

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    April 28, 2025
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Happiness

    Peeling the Onion of Intimacy in Marriage

    February 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Do you feel disconnected or lonely in your marriage? Let’s talk about Peeling the Onion of Emotional Intimacy.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Start Intentional Gifting and Celebrate Your Valentine All Year

    February 14, 2022 / 2 Comments

    Valentine’s Day is second only to Christmas for gift buying. Cards say what we can’t put into words. A fancy dinner is treasured time, but flowers fade and chocolate quickly disappears. What if you could spend less and give more by offering a gift of love nearly every day? You can with Intentional Gifting.

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  • Children,  Communication,  Happiness

    Heart Cards

    February 7, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Chris: With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, we were inspired to share how our daughter’s holiday assignment led to a new take on a traditional symbol. When our daughter was in the second grade, the teacher challenged the class to make their own Valentine’s cards.  As she got in the car from school, she told me about her assignment.  Her concern: “I don’t love everyone in my class.  I don’t want to put a heart on every card.”   My suggestion: “When we get home, look up what a human heart really looks like.”  When Michelle arrived home that evening, Taryn had 14 Valentine’s cards with a typical heart shape on them AND 9 cards…

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    May 31, 2021

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    January 13, 2020

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  • Decision to Love,  Differences

    Our “One of a Kind” Marriage

    January 31, 2022 / 2 Comments

    Our marriage is one of a kind. While we’re two people who have come from different places, we put together our past and present influences to become something new. Looking Inside My Family of Origin Jen: Family of origin has had a strong influence on our marriage. My parents stayed married throughout my childhood. I saw elements of disharmony, but since my parents were still together, I brushed off any worry. When I was in college, my parents divorced. The disharmony had gotten worse over time, and I figured this must be the natural progression of marriage. I met Nick not long after my parents split, and we got serious…

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    Lost that Lovin’ feeling?

    May 29, 2023
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