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  • Decision to Love,  Differences,  Stress

    When All Else Fails . . . Eat Ice Cream

    February 15, 2021 / No Comments

    For many of us the COVID honeymoon is long over.  Isolation, loss of routines, access to the gym, financial worries, working from home and changing school schedules has had us stretched too thin too long.  We’d rather eat an entire loaf of bread than bake one and if we hear how much someone enjoys the extra time with their kids we’ll scream!  This is COVID Stress.  We’ve all experienced it.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Tidying Up Your Marriage KonMari Style

    June 10, 2019

    In-Laws or Outlaws?

    February 26, 2019
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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026
  • Conflict,  Differences

    My (insert cuss word) Valentine

    February 8, 2021 / No Comments

    CHRIS: I knew Michelle was the one from the moment we met. But the thing that made it unquestionable for me was when we went shopping together right after Christmas and the store clerks were busy changing out shelves to Valentine’s Day items. Michelle turned to me and said, “Good grief. If that isn’t the perfect image of how commercial that holiday is…”. I was hooked. She was beautiful, smart and placed absolutely NO value on Valentine’s Day.  Fast forward a few years into our marriage when a simple Valentine’s  gift turned out to be not so simple.

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Old Habits Die Hard

    February 19, 2023

    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018
  • Passion,  Romance

    Loving Your Way through February

    February 1, 2021 / No Comments

    It is said that February is the month for lovers. Having five kids in 10 years, Nick and I spent many years focusing on kid activities for Valentine’s Day. But romance has always been a priority for us, and if February has to be an excuse to be romantic, I say bring it on!

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    Nick and Jen

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    30 Seconds of Passion

    October 25, 2021
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    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    March 28, 2022

    10 Things Women Want

    December 7, 2020
  • super-power of affirmation
    Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Romance

    The Super-Power of Affirmation

    January 25, 2021 / 2 Comments

      JULIE: I’m not a superhero. While I can’t fly faster than a speeding bullet, make myself invisible, or read people’s minds, I CAN harness the super-power of affirmation by  telling John the numerous reasons he is special to me or the many traits I admire in him. Never underestimate the super-power of affirmation to build up your spouse and enhance your relationship.

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    John and Julie

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    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020
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    Making Up is Hard to Do

    August 28, 2022

    The Secret Recipe of Intimacy

    February 11, 2019
  • Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance

    Tell Her She’s Pretty and Let Him Go Golfing

    January 18, 2021 / No Comments

    Kids say the funniest things. But sometimes, the things they say can teach us a thing or two. Our friends Greg and Cecilia have five children between 1 and 11 years old. They asked their four oldest kids to answer some questions about marriage. Here’s what they had to say: Why do people get Married? Because they love each other. Because they kiss each other. How do you know Mom and Dad love each other?

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    Ken and Janine

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    November 9, 2020
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    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021

    Keeping Up with the Jones’s

    August 26, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Stress

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    January 9, 2021 / No Comments

    Some time ago, we wrote about the importance of being aware of the Tone of Voice we use with our spouse. The gist of the post was that our Tone of Voice is the key culprit that begins most disagreements, hurts, and fights between spouses. We want to revisit this important topic and provide some additional helpful hints we’ve learned along the way.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021

    You Say Goodbye and I Say Hello

    December 3, 2023

    The Elf on the Shelf

    December 21, 2020
  • Communication,  Sex

    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021 / No Comments

    Happy New Year to all!  We are so grateful that 2020 is clearly in our rear-view mirror.  What a relief.  The start of a new year is traditionally set aside for reflection and resolutions.  For us, 2021 was no different. We often make couple as well as individual resolutions.  Stress and busyness, age and life in general had cooled our sexual relationship to a slow simmer.  Our 2021 goal is :  “Some is good.  More is better!”  Planned or spontaneous — all is good! Let the conversation begin.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Is There Technoference in Your Marriage?

    June 13, 2022

    Candid Chris

    March 7, 2022

    Table Talk

    April 25, 2022
  • Communication,  Differences,  Stress

    The Elf on the Shelf

    December 21, 2020 / No Comments

    It’s that time of year – you know, when our kids are all on their best behavior and the most frequent threat you hear parents utter is “Santa is watching!” The latest craze is the Elf on the Shelf. The elf moves around your home, keeping its eye on your kids and causing a little mayhem along the way. Maybe your elf plays a game with a few of the stuffed animals in the house. Perhaps it gets into your cookie jar. Maybe it even spills flour in your kitchen. No matter what, the kids know it’s watching them. So, what if the elf was watching you and your spouse?…

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    Nick and Jen

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    The Benefit of the Doubt

    August 31, 2020

    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018
  • Children,  Decision to Love,  Making Decisions,  Parenting,  Perseverance

    Happy Holidays? In 2020? Yes!

    December 14, 2020 / No Comments

    “It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought,  doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”    ― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas! Whether our holiday family traditions have been around for generations or started in our own marriage, one thing is for certain – 2020 has upended them all.

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    John and Julie

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    October 28, 2019
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    A Toast

    July 31, 2023

    Don’t Forget to Laugh

    January 13, 2025
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex,  Time

    10 Things Women Want

    December 7, 2020 / No Comments

    1) Learn her “Love Language:” And speak it often! (Learn more: What Language Are You Speaking? ) Janine’s love language is “Acts of Service.” So, when I vacuum or do dishes or cook, it fills up her ‘love tank’ – her mood brightens and there’s a whole different vibe between us.  I can tell I’ve found a direct path to her heart.

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    Ken and Janine

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    September 7, 2020
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    Big Challenges, Big Rewards

    September 9, 2024
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    Choose Your Hard

    October 10, 2022
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