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    3 Steps to Restore Sexual Intimacy

    June 22, 2025 / No Comments

    Whoever said the way to a man’s heart was through his stomach might have flunked anatomy or maybe geography. Sexual intimacy is a key component of a healthy marriage, and it has its challenges in every stage of life. When we hit a dry spell, we have used 3 steps to restore our sexual intimacy and avoid the slippery slope.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Forgiveness,  Grief,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex

    The Healing Power of Touch

    July 22, 2024 / 1 Comment

    A previous blog explored a super power we all have within us – the Super Power of Affirmation.   But did you know that you possess another Super Power?  It’s the Healing Power of Touch.  Holy Hole in a Doughnut, Batman!  Bet you didn’t know you had all that in you!

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    John and Julie

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    Why Sex Matters in Marriage

    May 20, 2024 / 2 Comments

    For many married couples, physical intimacy gradually decreases over time. Busy schedules, stress, or feelings of guilt or embarrassment can all contribute to a decline in this vital part of a healthy marriage. But what if we told you that prioritizing physical touch isn’t just about pleasure, but about strengthening your marriage and revitalizing your love? Sex matters in marriage. What’s the Big Deal? Janine: For a LONG time, I really didn’t understand how significant and important physical intimacy is. Making love was the last thing on my list of priorities, and I just didn’t understand why it seemed so important to Ken. When you were growing up, did you get the message that sex was…

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    Ken and Janine

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    July 28, 2024
  • Communication,  Romance,  Sex,  Vulnerability

    When In Doubt, Just Get Naked

    April 21, 2024 / 1 Comment

    When we were newlyweds, we heard another couple (married much longer than us) quip a line of advice: “when in doubt, just get naked.” It sounded good to us at the time, and it has only become more relevant since then. Let us explain…

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    Nick and Jen

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  • Communication,  Differences,  Passion,  Sex

    Who Wants More Sex?

    July 25, 2022 / 1 Comment

    In pretty much every marriage, there’s one spouse who has a stronger sex drive than the other… Our Journey Ken:      Typically, it’s us men who are more interested in sex: that’s how it is for me. I remember attending a marriage conference long ago where a woman raised her hand to ask a question.  She explained that SHE wanted to make love more often than her husband, and this was a struggle for them.  I couldn’t believe it.  I wondered what it would be like to be married to a woman who wanted more sex.   Janine:  For years, I just didn’t understand why sex was such a big deal.  Once…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Boomerang Baby

    June 20, 2022 / No Comments

    “Mom and Dad, would it be ok if I moved home for a while?” These words were the start of a brand-new chapter in our life.  Good-bye empty nest, hello boomerang baby.

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    John and Julie

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    Passion,  Sex

    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    March 28, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Want to improve your sex life? Don’t underestimate how important your sex life is to health of your marriage. This week we’re re-posting one of our popular posts from July 2019 on this little-talked-about topic.  Here are 7 tips to improve your sex life…. 1. Spice it up Be a flirt. Read a good book on sex for married couples. Plan in a little “variety”. Text your spouse or leave them a note to let them know you can’t wait to be alone together. 2. Share the Same Bedtime It’s a rule we made when we got married: we go to bed together each night. I (Janine) am a night owl. Ken gets up…

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    Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex

    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Julie – It finally happened.  After two years of extreme caution, COVID finally found us.  First John, then me.  John?  Like a bad cold that lingered.  Me?  Pretty much the sickest I’ve ever been in my life and still battling fatigue a month later.  We didn’t kiss each other for a couple of weeks, much less think about making love.  Heck, my sleeping was so erratic and restless that we didn’t even sleep in the same bed for weeks. Physical or mental illness, childbirth, surgery, kids who constantly want to sleep with mommy and daddy, changing hormones, or the death of a close family member can wreak havoc on the sexual…

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    Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Sex

    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021 / No Comments

      The focus of our last post, “Sex — Naughty or Nice” was our learned attitudes about sex. We hope you ventured into exploring your own attitudes about sexuality. If not, there is not time like the present to dive in. As promised, we will focus this post on Beyond Biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Romance,  Sex

    The Game of Life

    July 12, 2021 / No Comments

    In the game of life, even with the best laid plans, things going awry isn’t just a possibility – it’s a probability.  It’s how we change the game plan that determines whether we turn it into a touchdown or a turnover.  Here’s the play-by-play of our recent weekend watching our twin 8-year-old nieces: Game plan: Camping in the back yard, complete with campfire and s’mores Actual play: 3 days straight of rain Punt: Making popcorn and watching a movie together Game plan: Going for a big explore in a nearby park and checking out the new playground equipment Actual play: 3 days straight of rain Punt: Crafts and having a…

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    June 5, 2022
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