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    Behaviors,  Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Growth,  Happiness,  Perseverance,  Resilience

    Marriage – the Olympics of Relationships

    February 23, 2026 / 2 Comments

    Julie: John and I have really enjoyed watching the Olympics these past couple of weeks. Medals are won by fractions of a second. Partnerships are tested under pressure. Expectations run high. There is disappointment and elation. Marriage is the Olympics of Relationships. Both require preparation, endurance, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to something bigger than yourself.

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    John and Julie

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  • Accountability,  Behaviors

    Emotional Baggage

    February 3, 2026 / 2 Comments

    Chris: Recently, while returning home from a trip, the wheel of our suitcase broke. It was the last leg of the trip and both of us looked at our suitcase like it had failed us in some way. We were tired from traveling all day and the last thing we wanted to do was have to switch back and forth, carrying a broken suitcase through the airport. So, in that moment, the easiest thing to do was to blame the suitcase for being faulty. We both had convinced ourselves that it was a bad suitcase and how could the company put out something so awful. Never mind that we had…

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  • To DO list with Take Time-out for US! Checked off
    Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Intimacy,  Making Decisions,  Time

    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie:  Let’s be honest—life gets busy. Between work, kids, errands, and the never-ending to-do list, it’s so easy for your marriage to slip down your list of priorities. You’re not alone if you’ve ever looked at your spouse at the end of a long day and realized you haven’t really connected, maybe not even had a real conversation, in days or even weeks. But here’s the thing – taking a time-out for your marriage isn’t just something that’s nice to do. It’s the foundation that keeps everything else in your life running smoothly.

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    The Kindness Challenge

    January 4, 2026 / 1 Comment

    Kindness 'makes the world go round.' Welcome 2026 with a 30-Day Kindness Challenge. Pass it on!

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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  • Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences

    Opposites Attract

    December 15, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Michelle: I love watching Dancing with the Stars. Chris: I love watching Ghost Hunters and I hate that I know the pros, past and present, who have been on Dancing with the Stars. Michelle: One of the pros, Mark Ballas, sings with his wife when he is not performing or rehearsing for a Tuesday night show. Chris: One afternoon, Michelle sent me the song, Highs and Lows, by Alexander Jean (the band formed by Mark Ballas and his wife Brittney Jean). Michelle sent it with a text that read, “This is so us.” Michelle: I remember as a child, hearing that opposites attract and being confused by the concept. My…

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    What Was Your Success Today?

    November 3, 2025 / No Comments

    Michelle: When I was younger, I loved watching the Summer Olympics. I especially remember watching the 1984 Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, California. There are two reasons that specific Olympics reigns supreme in my memories. The first reason is that my grandparents lived in Los Angeles and they had tickets to many of the track and field events. While my grandparents brought back some Olympic pins as souvenirs, it was my grandfather’s reverence when telling us about President Ronald Reagan opening the Olympic Games and my grandmother’s stories of all of the amazing athletes they saw from countries all over the world, that pulled me in. But my second reason…

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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025 / No Comments

    John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship.  It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to  “be right” can often get in the way.  Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed.   This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively. 

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  • Spring cleaning
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    Spring Cleaning

    March 31, 2025 / 1 Comment

    JULIE In the wee hours of the morning of March 20, Spring quietly tiptoed in while we were sleeping!  And although the layer of snow we received later in the day suggested otherwise, another winter had passed.  The time for new life had begun, and with that also came Spring cleaning.

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  • Accountability,  Behaviors

    Practice What You Preach

    March 3, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Michelle: One day our daughter Taryn came home from school and said, “The word practice is really confusing.” It can mean to work at something to gain skill, like when I practice my different tumbling passes at cheer.  But it can also mean to be a professional at something. Like a doctor has a medical practice.” Chris: Taryn’s confusion about the word ‘practice’ really made me think. I responded, “It can also mean to carry out or do something-like practice what you preach.” Why is it important to practice what we preach? People should be attracted by our light in the way we live and in the words we speak. …

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  • Behaviors,  Growth,  Transformation

    Baking Bread and Marriage: Surprising Similarities

    January 26, 2025 / No Comments

    Recently a friend offered us a tablespoon of her sourdough starter. And we came to discover that baking bread and marriage have some surprising similarities. The Process Karen: I knew that accepting this little bit of sourdough starter came with a lot of responsibility. It would need to be fed on a regular basis and provided a warm environment in which to grow. We would have to observe this dough using all our senses. Does it look frothy and bubbly… feel stretchy… smell just the right amount of yeasty? On occasion we would need to discard some of the starter before feeding to keep it from becoming too sour. It…

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