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    What Was Your Success Today?

    November 3, 2025 / No Comments

    Michelle: When I was younger, I loved watching the Summer Olympics. I especially remember watching the 1984 Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, California. There are two reasons that specific Olympics reigns supreme in my memories. The first reason is that my grandparents lived in Los Angeles and they had tickets to many of the track and field events. While my grandparents brought back some Olympic pins as souvenirs, it was my grandfather’s reverence when telling us about President Ronald Reagan opening the Olympic Games and my grandmother’s stories of all of the amazing athletes they saw from countries all over the world, that pulled me in. But my second reason…

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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025 / No Comments

    John For this week’s post, Julie and I thought we would share some insights into an interesting and sometimes puzzling dynamic in our relationship.  It all has to do with the idea of “being right.” In the midst of our usually life-giving relationship, the need to  “be right” can often get in the way.  Worse than that, it can cause breakdowns in our relationship that need to be healed.   This is a challenge that we deal with frequently but are striving to manage more effectively. 

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    Spring Cleaning

    March 31, 2025 / 1 Comment

    JULIE In the wee hours of the morning of March 20, Spring quietly tiptoed in while we were sleeping!  And although the layer of snow we received later in the day suggested otherwise, another winter had passed.  The time for new life had begun, and with that also came Spring cleaning.

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  • Accountability,  Behaviors

    Practice What You Preach

    March 3, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Michelle: One day our daughter Taryn came home from school and said, “The word practice is really confusing.” It can mean to work at something to gain skill, like when I practice my different tumbling passes at cheer.  But it can also mean to be a professional at something. Like a doctor has a medical practice.” Chris: Taryn’s confusion about the word ‘practice’ really made me think. I responded, “It can also mean to carry out or do something-like practice what you preach.” Why is it important to practice what we preach? People should be attracted by our light in the way we live and in the words we speak. …

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  • Behaviors,  Growth,  Transformation

    Baking Bread and Marriage: Surprising Similarities

    January 26, 2025 / No Comments

    Recently a friend offered us a tablespoon of her sourdough starter. And we came to discover that baking bread and marriage have some surprising similarities. The Process Karen: I knew that accepting this little bit of sourdough starter came with a lot of responsibility. It would need to be fed on a regular basis and provided a warm environment in which to grow. We would have to observe this dough using all our senses. Does it look frothy and bubbly… feel stretchy… smell just the right amount of yeasty? On occasion we would need to discard some of the starter before feeding to keep it from becoming too sour. It…

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    3 Life Lessons From the Movie ‘Wicked’

    December 9, 2024 / 3 Comments

    Michelle: After the Thanksgiving dishes were cleaned and put away, my family and I headed to the movie theater to see the cinematic experience that is Wicked! And, while the film offers an impressive cast, beloved songs and amazing scenes, it was also a treasure chest full of life lessons that were laced throughout the magical world of Oz. If you are unfamiliar with the premise, allow us to briefly set the stage.  Wicked is a musical told from the perspective of two witches, Elphaba and Galinda, before and after Dorthy’s arrival in Oz. The movie version of Wicked Part 1, which is essentially a prequel to the Wizard of…

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    Tis the Season to Ruin Holidays

    November 11, 2024 / No Comments

    As we were making plans with my mom, Taryn (our daughter) and her boyfriend, Kris for Thanksgiving, Taryn said, “Mom, remember when you guys ruined Thanksgiving?”   Well, we are here to tell you that Thanksgiving was just one of many holidays that we unintentionally ruined for Taryn.  While we could probably share every major holiday that was ruined in some way, we selected our top 3.  3. Thanksgiving: When Taryn was five, she was watching Sesame Street as Chris and I were in the kitchen preparing Thanksgiving dinner.  She came into the kitchen as Chris was pulling the turkey out of the oven to baste.  As he did this he said, “Wow, that’s…

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    Patience, Patience, Patience!

    October 21, 2024 / 1 Comment

    “Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.” Barbara Johnson Julie:  Our daughter-in-law is now 13 days overdue with our first grandchild.  We’ve known he was coming since Feb. 9, the news of his upcoming arrival being my best birthday present ever.  Looking back now, it seems like an eternity – and I’m not the one carrying him!  Patience may be a virtue, but it is certainly not one of mine.  This has been the cause of many rifts between John and me over the years.

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    3 Ways to Date Your Spouse

    September 30, 2024 / No Comments

    Michelle: As a couple, if we do not continue to pursue one another, we could wake up one day to find that we have become roommates.  The foundation of our relationship was built on friendship and romance.  Here are three easy ways that we have come up with to continue to nourish that foundation. 1. Look for Opportunities to Connect: When we were dating, Chris was constantly calling me, asking me to go grab a drink with him or even simply ride a bike together or take a walk.  After we got married and started raising our family, our connections went from intentional time to be together and check in,…

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    Control in This Thing Called Life

    June 24, 2024 / No Comments

    Chris: Stuff happens… and, when I think about all the stuff that could or probably will happen to me on any given day, I am reminded of the lyrics from an 80’s Prince classic, “Let’s Go Crazy”.   “Dearly beloved.  We are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.” While there are many opinions about Prince songs, this line seems to be spot on with our goal as humans-let’s make it through today.  But here’s a question…when stuff happens, how do you react?  Do you freeze, freak out or bury your head?  Or do you do some other variation of unproductive coping mechanisms that hijacks your logical brain, making you unable to problem…

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