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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Love’s Sweet Spot

    March 9, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Jose Mizrahi on Unsplash Many of you are familiar with theYin-Yang symbol or the phrase “opposites attract.”  You know, the eternal optimist vs. the pessimist, the spontaneous adventurer vs. the live by the calendar person.  Let’s call them complementary, not opposite.  Think:  You are the peanut butter to my jelly or the music to my dancing shoes.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    What is Love Asking of Me Now?

    May 6, 2024
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    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022

    Scorekeeping in Marriage

    December 8, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Perseverance

    What Happened to the Person I Married?

    January 20, 2020 / No Comments

    After starting out so in love with my spouse, how is it that I sometimes find him/her so annoying and hard to live with?  What happened to the person I married?

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    Ken and Janine

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    The Rituals of Connection

    August 13, 2024

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019

    Candid Chris

    March 7, 2022
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Passion

    Marriage Magic

    December 16, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  Jared Lind on Unsplash As we become immersed in this holiday season we are drawn to the magic.  Recall the wonder and awe of your childhood, reindeers that fly and a Santa who made dreams come true.  Fast-forward several decades.  Remember the rush of feelings when you knew your spouse was ‘the one‘.  You reveled in discovering this person who showered you with love and support.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Earning a Time Out

    August 11, 2020

    Table Talk

    April 25, 2022

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Scorekeeping in Marriage

    December 8, 2019 / No Comments

    “Scorekeeping” in our marriage can lead to resentment. It starts with an attitude of “I deserve more” where we keep a tally of all the things we do for our spouse. “I did the laundry so he should do the dishes.” This is compounded by the fact that men and women keep score differently.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Marriage Under Quarantine

    March 23, 2020
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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026
    Just Do It

    “Just Do It!”

    September 28, 2026
  • Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance,  Time

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019 / No Comments

    You proposed.  She accepted.  White dress, wedding bells.  New house, new bills.  Kids. Jobs. TV. Internet. Full calendar. What happened?  What’s next? Photo by Alyssa Ledesma on Unsplash We thought our marriage was “fine” but we were focused on running from one kid’s sports to the next kid’s music lessons.  There wasn’t time for those long talks about our future.  Even though we thought the honeymoon would last forever…it didn’t.  We were more focused on the kids than on each other.  As the romance faded, we gradually became more aware of each others’ flaws.  We lost sight of  who WE were as a couple.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Can We Have Some Pickles with That Sandwich?

    September 15, 2020

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019
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    Co-parenting My Child

    October 11, 2021
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Time

    Intentional Marriage — 50 Ways

    October 14, 2019 / No Comments

    “Intentional” is a popular buzzword these days.  We are intentional in the workplace, in the way we handle our finances, our fitness routine, and the way we raise and discipline our children.  The list goes on and on and for good reason.  Intentional means to do something deliberately, consciously or with purpose.  It means it didn’t happen on a whim; someone planned for it to happen and persisted until it happened.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    August 30, 2021
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    Just. Do. It. Part II

    November 9, 2026

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019
  • Children,  Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Time

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019 / No Comments

    We recently went to Disneyland with our  adult daughter and our 2 year old granddaughter. All three adults had high hopes for a fun-filled family time at the “happiest” place on earth. When naysayers told us we were crazy for taking a two year old to Disneyland, we scoffed at them. We’ve been there, done this before. But we hadn’t been there, done that with a toddler. The crowds, a cranky toddler, and plenty of unmet expectations led to a communication breakdown that was a debacle for all of us. None of us ended up having much fun and we left a day early.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019
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    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

    January 8, 2024
  • Children,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance

    Ugh, Mom and Dad, no PDA!

    September 23, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Nick: Call it a “sixth sense,” but I can tell when my kids’ eyes are on Jen and me.  I can practically hear their eyes rolling whenever we touch each other.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Holiday Traditions

    October 15, 2018

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019

    Keeping Up with the Jones’s

    August 26, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness

    How We Saved Our Failing Marriage

    September 9, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: We just celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary and we’ve never been happier. But it wasn’t always that way. Around year 7 of our marriage, we began to struggle. And we did what so many married couples do – ignored the warning signs telling ourselves things were not that bad. We swept issues between us under the rug and after another 5 years of sweeping there was no more room under the rug! We were just roommates co-existing in the same  household each playing our respective roles.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Us Against the World

    August 22, 2021

    Be Ready

    July 11, 2022

    Can We Have Some Pickles with That Sandwich?

    September 15, 2020
  • Decision to Love,  Romance

    Dancing in the Kitchen

    August 12, 2019 / 3 Comments

    Janine:  This weekend we celebrated our 29th Wedding Anniversary!  Yay!   Ken was on call for work, so we couldn’t go far, and we didn’t want to try to go out for a nice meal, for fear that it might be interrupted.  Here’s what we DID do.

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    Ken and Janine

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    The Game of Life

    July 12, 2021

    Going to Bat for Your Spouse

    June 22, 2020
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    Listen, Linda!!! Active Listening In Marriage

    August 3, 2026
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