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  • Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance

    Tell Her She’s Pretty and Let Him Go Golfing

    January 18, 2021 / No Comments

    Kids say the funniest things. But sometimes, the things they say can teach us a thing or two. Our friends Greg and Cecilia have five children between 1 and 11 years old. They asked their four oldest kids to answer some questions about marriage. Here’s what they had to say: Why do people get Married? Because they love each other. Because they kiss each other. How do you know Mom and Dad love each other?

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    Ken and Janine

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    Was it Bad Parenting or Making Memories?

    October 31, 2022

    Getting Teens to Talk

    February 2, 2020

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex,  Time

    10 Things Women Want

    December 7, 2020 / No Comments

    1) Learn her “Love Language:” And speak it often! (Learn more: What Language Are You Speaking? ) Janine’s love language is “Acts of Service.” So, when I vacuum or do dishes or cook, it fills up her ‘love tank’ – her mood brightens and there’s a whole different vibe between us.  I can tell I’ve found a direct path to her heart.

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    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020

    Money Matters

    October 25, 2018
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    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Forgiveness,  Perseverance,  Stress

    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020 / No Comments

    “I disagree!”  “What?!?!”  “You don’t understand.” When husbands and wives disagree, things can get tense.  We dig in our heels, raise the volume, and let our emotions get the best of us.  Arguments can turn into a competition to win (as if anyone every truly “wins” in an argument). Whenever we hear ourselves say, “You always….,” or “You never…,” we know we’re marching down the wrong road.  So how can we settle disagreements?

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    October 9, 2023

    Go Anywhere, Do Anything

    June 9, 2025

    Removing the Invisibility Cloak

    October 23, 2023
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Stress,  Time

    I Could Use Some Help!

    September 7, 2020 / No Comments

    You may have heard the analogy that men are like waffles, women like spaghetti. Neuroscientists have found that typically the male brain focuses on one thing at a time while females tend to mentally juggle multiple thoughts. For example, when a man is doing the dishes, he’s thinking about…the dishes. When a woman is doing the dishes, she might be thinking about the grocery list, that salad for the picnic on Saturday, the dentist appointment tomorrow, and that she needs to call her parents to see how they’re doing. All this mental and emotional work is invisible, but it can be exhausting.

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    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020 / No Comments

    Why are we writing about sex again?  Sex in marriage is more important than most people think.  It’s mysterious. There are a lot of “layers” and complexities to this whole topic…. read on…

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    I Will ROMANCE You Every Day of My Life

    July 25, 2018

    Empathy, Is It Contagious? For You Baby…

    August 21, 2018

    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020 / No Comments

    “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”  – William Shakespeare We all enter marriage with “sex-pectations” – our ideas of what our sex life will be like.  When “we can’t get enough of each other” gradually deteriorates to “not tonight,” we find ourselves feeling disappointed, hurt, even un-loved. BUT…it doesn’t have to stay that way. 

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    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019
  • Conflict,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance,  Stress

    7 Strategies for Coping with Crisis

    May 4, 2020 / No Comments

    Ken:  For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in good times and bad… that’s what we signed up for.  But when difficulties arise it’s hard to recall the passion we had on our wedding day.  If you’re going through hard times right now, how do you find your way through?

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    Is It Wrong To Feel This Way?

    January 7, 2019
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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025
  • Communication,  Perseverance,  Stress,  Time

    Marriage Under Quarantine

    March 23, 2020 / 2 Comments

    This week we created a fun video to get you re-focused on your relationship while locked in quarantine together. Click on video below! Leave a comment on the creative ways you’re growing your relationship during the coronavirus outbreak!

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    October 14, 2019

    Pushing Buttons

    September 21, 2020
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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026
  • Children,  Decision to Love,  Making Decisions,  Parenting,  Perseverance,  Time

    Empty Nest – Syndrome or Summit?

    February 17, 2020 / No Comments

    Janine: I remember when we had three children under the age of 5.  One thing I fantasized about was being able to leave the house someday WITHOUT a diaper bag.  I didn’t know if that day would ever come.  In the midst of the wild and crazy parenting years, I couldn’t imagine what life would be like after kids.  Before we knew it…our youngest child went off to college.

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    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019
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    The Empty Nest Revisited

    November 28, 2022

    50 Ways to Engage Kids

    January 13, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Perseverance

    What Happened to the Person I Married?

    January 20, 2020 / No Comments

    After starting out so in love with my spouse, how is it that I sometimes find him/her so annoying and hard to live with?  What happened to the person I married?

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    Parenting 101 – United We Stand

    October 29, 2019

    Go Anywhere, Do Anything

    June 9, 2025

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019
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