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    Help Us Make The Couples Post Better

    May 8, 2022 / No Comments

    We’re celebrating 4 years of weekly posts at The Couples Post! Since May 2018, The Couples Post has been posting articles on marriage – sharing experiences and advice for married couples. It’s time for us to find out what you think.  Whether you’ve been following us since the beginning, or you just stumbled upon our site recently, we hope you will take 2-3 minutes to send us your feedback.   Here’s a link to a 3 minute survey We value your time AND your opinion.   Thank you for sharing them both with us.

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    Ken and Janine

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    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    March 28, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Want to improve your sex life? Don’t underestimate how important your sex life is to health of your marriage. This week we’re re-posting one of our popular posts from July 2019 on this little-talked-about topic.  Here are 7 tips to improve your sex life…. 1. Spice it up Be a flirt. Read a good book on sex for married couples. Plan in a little “variety”. Text your spouse or leave them a note to let them know you can’t wait to be alone together. 2. Share the Same Bedtime It’s a rule we made when we got married: we go to bed together each night. I (Janine) am a night owl. Ken gets up…

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  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Happiness

    Peeling the Onion of Intimacy in Marriage

    February 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Do you feel disconnected or lonely in your marriage? Let’s talk about Peeling the Onion of Emotional Intimacy.

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  • Conflict,  Differences,  Making Decisions

    4 Steps to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    January 16, 2022 / No Comments

    This week we decided to share something we clipped out of a newspaper a few years ago with the title: How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage, by Nina Chen, Ph.D. A quick google search led us to the online version here: http://missourifamilies.org/features/divorcearticles/divorcefeature45.htm Here’s what Dr. Chen, a Human Development Specialist with the University of Missouri Extension, has to say: “There is no perfect marriage. Even happy, healthy marriages involve some conflict from time to time. Conflict is a normal part of sharing life with someone else. The key is to know how to deal with disagreement and conflict in a constructive way. These steps can help: 1. Set a specific…

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    Married Couples: Are We Too Busy?

    December 6, 2021 / 3 Comments

    We often find our identity in what we accomplish. Our activities and responsibilities can build up until we are crushed beneath them. Are we so busy that we miss out on beauty, relationship, and belonging? Have we become ‘human doings’ rather than ‘human beings.’  It’s hard to grow our marriage if we’re too busy to BE with each other.  Busy Families JANINE: If you grew up on a farm like I did, you might remember the ‘breakneck’ pace of harvest or planting time.  During those busy days, both Dad and Mom were working intense hours and running on little sleep.  This extraordinary pace was for the short-term and my parents knew…

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    30 Seconds of Passion

    October 25, 2021 / No Comments

    LARRY:   When life gives you lemons (or a Covid pandemic) – make lemonade.  When Covid hit, my wife Jula and I decided to turn our quarantine into a second honeymoon.  We made the most of the extra time we had together by being romantic and talked about areas of our relationship that we’d actively avoided. Well …after about 6 months of this second honeymoon, life threw us a few curveballs and the proverbial ‘honeymoon wore off.’  Some months later, I had a dream where I got the idea of “30 Seconds of Passion.”   

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    September 12, 2021 / No Comments

    As we placed linen napkins on our laps for a fancy dinner, we realized life as we knew it was about to change. We were soon going to become parents. We’d enjoyed two wonderful years of marriage and wondered … would this be our last Getaway alone?

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    August 8, 2021 / 2 Comments

    Resentment, frustration, bitterness. Where do these come from? Sometimes, they’re a result of treating our spouse as “inferior” (due to our own attitude of superiority). Superiorities are something we all have, even if we don’t realize it. 

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    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021 / No Comments

    Our first heated “discussion” as a married couple wasn’t about what people call the “important” stuff – our values, family, money, jobs, or kids. Instead, our first “couple argument” was a top of the lungs, door-slamming, Tupperware-throwing, window rattling discussion about – our trash cans. We weren’t discussing color, size, number, or shape of our trash cans. We both pretty much agreed that a trash can is a trash can and should definitely look like a trash can. No issues there. Our fight was about who, of the two of us, would be deemed (for eternity and thereafter) the primary trash can “dragger” each and every week – 52 times…

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    Money Can’t Buy Me Love… 😍

    May 23, 2021 / 3 Comments

      Ken: It’s all over the news…. First Jeff Bezos and now Bill Gates have become divorcees. Two of the richest men in the world didn’t find married bliss, so how am I supposed to? How do we find lasting happiness in our marriage? My mom has always said…

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