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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Perseverance

    What Happened to the Person I Married?

    January 20, 2020 / No Comments

    After starting out so in love with my spouse, how is it that I sometimes find him/her so annoying and hard to live with?  What happened to the person I married?

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    Ken and Janine

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    The Elf on the Shelf

    December 21, 2020

    We Are More Than a Single Story

    December 12, 2022

    Party Pitfalls

    November 28, 2018
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Finances

    Got Money Arguments?

    November 25, 2019 / No Comments

    When couples have conversations about money, it often leads to disagreements, defensiveness, and arguments. Why is it so difficult to talk about finances? Conversations about money usually aren’t JUST about money. We all have underlying feelings (some very strong) about money. Fear. Insecurity. Resentment. Our past experiences affect how we deal with money. When we talk with our spouse about how to spend or save, all those memories and feelings start to surface.

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    July 19, 2020
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    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026

    What are you passionate about?

    November 18, 2019
  • Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance,  Time

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019 / No Comments

    You proposed.  She accepted.  White dress, wedding bells.  New house, new bills.  Kids. Jobs. TV. Internet. Full calendar. What happened?  What’s next? Photo by Alyssa Ledesma on Unsplash We thought our marriage was “fine” but we were focused on running from one kid’s sports to the next kid’s music lessons.  There wasn’t time for those long talks about our future.  Even though we thought the honeymoon would last forever…it didn’t.  We were more focused on the kids than on each other.  As the romance faded, we gradually became more aware of each others’ flaws.  We lost sight of  who WE were as a couple.

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    A Toast

    July 31, 2023

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    October 26, 2020

    Was it Bad Parenting or Making Memories?

    October 31, 2022
  • Finances,  Romance

    Lessons Learned from Our Vagabond Life

    September 30, 2019 / 1 Comment

      Ken:  In 2016 I began working short term job assignments, which has given us the opportunity to live in 5 different states within a very short time.  If someone had told us 5 or 10 years ago that we’d be away from our home 95% of the year we wouldn’t have believed it.  Since our kids are all grown and gone, we decided to give it a try – for at least a few months – and here we are 3 years later, still loving it. Photo by Dids at Pexels Most people probably won’t have the opportunity to pick up and live this way, but we hope you…

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    October 12, 2026
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    The BEST of Your Life

    May 4, 2026

    Got Money Arguments?

    November 25, 2019
  • Communication,  Forgiveness

    Our Ketchup Story

    September 2, 2019 / No Comments

    Janine:  I used to read into everything Ken said – well almost everything.  If he made a simple comment, I often took it as a personal criticism, even though he didn’t intend it to be.  We still talk about the day, years ago, when he said, “Gee, we’re almost out of ketchup.”

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    In Sickness and In Health

    August 15, 2022

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019

    The Rituals of Connection

    August 13, 2024
  • Decision to Love,  Romance

    Dancing in the Kitchen

    August 12, 2019 / 3 Comments

    Janine:  This weekend we celebrated our 29th Wedding Anniversary!  Yay!   Ken was on call for work, so we couldn’t go far, and we didn’t want to try to go out for a nice meal, for fear that it might be interrupted.  Here’s what we DID do.

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    The Game of Life

    July 12, 2021

    Going to Bat for Your Spouse

    June 22, 2020

    In Sickness and In Health

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  • Romance,  Sex

    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    July 8, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Is sex a priority in your marriage? Sexuality is an important ingredient for a healthy marriage. Here are 7 tips to help….

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    February 1, 2021

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

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    It’s Not About the Dress

    July 6, 2018
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Finances,  Forgiveness,  Sex

    The 7 Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage

    June 3, 2019 / No Comments

    Here’s our ‘Short List’ of the things that have had the biggest impact on our marriage. 1. The 5 Love Languages – In this book, Dr Gary Chapman explains there are 5 basic love languages and we each have a primary “language.”  We might be knocking ourselves out trying to show our spouse we love them,

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    In Sickness and In Health

    April 15, 2019
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    Kudos To The Tired Dad

    March 24, 2025

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Married Singles

    May 6, 2019 / No Comments

    How do you find the right balance of couple time versus individual time? Sports, times with friends/co-workers, Facebook/Pinterest, hunting….  There are a lot of fun activities that can keep us busy – and distracted.  None of these activities are bad or wrong in themselves.  But… do they draw us slowly away from our spouse?

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    Affirmations That Will Make Your Heart Soar!

    November 11, 2019

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    November 2, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Do you find yourself wondering, “What happened to us?!?!”  At some point, we all do.  We long for those days when we were dating and first married.  We were full of passion for each other and so in love.  Our lovemaking was frequent and passionate.  It seemed we couldn’t get enough of each other.  How did we get to a place where we were rubbing together like sandpaper, each doing our own thing?

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    Tidying Up Your Marriage KonMari Style

    June 10, 2019
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