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  • Communication,  Differences,  Time

    Earning a Time Out

    August 11, 2020 / No Comments

    Image by cottonbro via Pexels Marriage requires serious accountability to each other in order to last.  This is why we are wary of advice to spend time away from each other as if that alone will improve our relationship.  Perfectly valid solo activities can be chosen for the wrong reasons, particularly when the reason is avoiding my spouse.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

    January 8, 2024

    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Making Decisions

    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020 / 2 Comments

      “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”    Dr. Seuss  July 20, 2020. John: What seemed like an ordinary Monday was anything but, all because of the vows we made to each other exactly 29 years prior. As Julie’s brother called to wish us a happy anniversary, he congratulated us and commented that we were “living the dream.” You know what? He was right.

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    John and Julie

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    Slamming Cupboard Doors

    August 28, 2018
    Trash Talk, arguing over chores

    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020 / No Comments

    Why are we writing about sex again?  Sex in marriage is more important than most people think.  It’s mysterious. There are a lot of “layers” and complexities to this whole topic…. read on…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Is It Wrong To Feel This Way?

    January 7, 2019

    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Perseverance

    How to FIX Your Spouse

    July 12, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo by Alex Jumper Does your spouse do anything that absolutely drives you nuts? Would you like to know how to “fix” them once and for all? Read on.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Scorekeeping in Marriage

    December 8, 2019

    Phones at the Dinner Table

    June 24, 2019

    Table Talk

    April 25, 2022
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Finances

    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  John Gibbons on Unsplash Most of us know someone who thrives on change.  They love to spice things up.  For them, the most maddening phrase is:  “but we’ve always done it this way.”  The rest of us find security in knowing what we know, doing what we do well and living within our comfort zone.  We recently found ourselves at a crossroads in our lives with our medical practice.  The writing on the wall said:  “Don’t expect to see a change if you aren’t willing to make one.”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023

    Intentional Marriage — 50 Ways

    October 14, 2019

    Speaking In Code

    January 23, 2023
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences

    The Elephant in the Living Room

    June 29, 2020 / 1 Comment

    GIF by Kyle Bridgett via Giphy Sometimes you just have to come out and say it.  There’s no point avoiding it.  There’s an elephant in the living room.

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    Nick and Jen

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    How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    June 30, 2025

    Radical non-Parenting

    November 9, 2020

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020 / No Comments

    “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”  – William Shakespeare We all enter marriage with “sex-pectations” – our ideas of what our sex life will be like.  When “we can’t get enough of each other” gradually deteriorates to “not tonight,” we find ourselves feeling disappointed, hurt, even un-loved. BUT…it doesn’t have to stay that way. 

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    Ken and Janine

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    I Could Use Some Help!

    September 7, 2020

    In Sickness and In Health

    August 15, 2022
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    F.I.N.E.

    September 6, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Time

    Listening = Love and Respect

    June 1, 2020 / 2 Comments

    Over the years, we’ve heard a great deal about the importance of listening in marriage. This is one of those things that seems simple enough to understand, but for some reason is really hard to do consistently. The simple fact is that attentive listening is a skill and takes practice and determination. Rather than share the ways to become a better listener (you can find that information just about anywhere), we’d like to share with you some reasons why it is important to each of us to be heard.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Removing the Invisibility Cloak

    October 23, 2023

    Tone of Voice

    July 16, 2018

    Our Ketchup Story

    September 2, 2019
  • Communication,  Grief,  Romance

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Gabriel Benois on Unsplash We are so very over Covid -19 — Zoom meetings, air hugs, frightful news, conflicting information, data overload and face masks — All of it!  We long for real gatherings, real hugs, and the freedom to breathe in the air without worry.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Dear Younger Us

    May 17, 2021

    Got Money Arguments?

    November 25, 2019
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    The World Turned Upside-Down

    October 13, 2025
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Perseverance

    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020 / No Comments

    You’re scrolling through a social media feed and you see happy selfies, beautiful date nights, a tantalizing plate of chocolate covered strawberries with a caption that says, “My hubby is the best!” You pause and think to yourself, ‘how do they do it?’ Our relationship doesn’t look like that.

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    Nick and Jen

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    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021

    Not All Habits Are Bad

    April 10, 2022

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019
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