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    Remember When…

    March 15, 2021 / 1 Comment

    It’s easy to get lost in our day-to-day. Once we’re out of the honeymoon phase of marriage and real life settles in, we develop routines and patterns of behavior. We become consumed by the here and now, and sometimes we can lose sight of the excitement and passion that brought us together and inspired us to get married in the first place.

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    Nick and Jen

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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022

    Date Nights

    September 17, 2018

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Sex,  Time

    5 Things Men Want

    March 1, 2021 / No Comments

    1. RESPECT: (KEN): When a man is asked, ‘Would you rather be respected or loved?’ most would choose being respected.  In his book Love and Respect, Dr. E. Eggerichs explains this tendency. (JANINE): For years, I didn’t appreciate how important it was to Ken that I treat him with respect.  I also didn’t understand how hurtful it was when I disrespected him.  When I show Ken respect (by affirming his decisions, avoiding sarcasm or by not using a demeaning tone) it translates (for him) into feeling ‘loved.’  Another way to say this is: when a man is disrespected, he receives the message he is NOT loved. 2. SEX: 

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    Ken and Janine

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    June 17, 2019

    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021

    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021
  • Passion,  Romance

    Loving Your Way through February

    February 1, 2021 / No Comments

    It is said that February is the month for lovers. Having five kids in 10 years, Nick and I spent many years focusing on kid activities for Valentine’s Day. But romance has always been a priority for us, and if February has to be an excuse to be romantic, I say bring it on!

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    Nick and Jen

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    April 27, 2020
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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022
    Roamntic man and woman standing in front of a large flame

    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022
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    Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Romance

    The Super-Power of Affirmation

    January 25, 2021 / 2 Comments

      JULIE: I’m not a superhero. While I can’t fly faster than a speeding bullet, make myself invisible, or read people’s minds, I CAN harness the super-power of affirmation by  telling John the numerous reasons he is special to me or the many traits I admire in him. Never underestimate the super-power of affirmation to build up your spouse and enhance your relationship.

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    John and Julie

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    A Clean Slate

    January 2, 2023

    An Attitude of Gratitude

    August 4, 2024

    I Could Use Some Help!

    September 7, 2020
  • Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance

    Tell Her She’s Pretty and Let Him Go Golfing

    January 18, 2021 / No Comments

    Kids say the funniest things. But sometimes, the things they say can teach us a thing or two. Our friends Greg and Cecilia have five children between 1 and 11 years old. They asked their four oldest kids to answer some questions about marriage. Here’s what they had to say: Why do people get Married? Because they love each other. Because they kiss each other. How do you know Mom and Dad love each other?

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    Ken and Janine

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    50 Ways to Engage Kids

    January 13, 2020
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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

    January 8, 2024
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Passion,  Romance,  Sex,  Time

    10 Things Women Want

    December 7, 2020 / No Comments

    1) Learn her “Love Language:” And speak it often! (Learn more: What Language Are You Speaking? ) Janine’s love language is “Acts of Service.” So, when I vacuum or do dishes or cook, it fills up her ‘love tank’ – her mood brightens and there’s a whole different vibe between us.  I can tell I’ve found a direct path to her heart.

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    Ken and Janine

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    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019

    Taking Your Marriage on Vacation

    July 29, 2019

    Be Ready

    July 11, 2022
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Perseverance,  Romance,  Time

    Annual Marriage Tune-Up

    August 23, 2020 / No Comments

    A number of years ago, some friends of ours told us about a little trick they use to keep their marriage healthy, strong, and vibrant. Every year, they pledge to attend some kind of marriage enrichment event together. According to our friends, this does not mean weekend getaways to the beach, skiing, or going to a bed and breakfast together.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021

    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020 / No Comments

    Why are we writing about sex again?  Sex in marriage is more important than most people think.  It’s mysterious. There are a lot of “layers” and complexities to this whole topic…. read on…

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    Ken and Janine

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    February 2, 2020
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    Body Language

    November 13, 2023

    Marriage: Our Security in the Chaos

    April 5, 2020
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020 / No Comments

    “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”  – William Shakespeare We all enter marriage with “sex-pectations” – our ideas of what our sex life will be like.  When “we can’t get enough of each other” gradually deteriorates to “not tonight,” we find ourselves feeling disappointed, hurt, even un-loved. BUT…it doesn’t have to stay that way. 

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    Ken and Janine

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    Relationship Resolutions

    December 31, 2018

    Taking the Easy Road

    June 7, 2021

    You Say Goodbye and I Say Hello

    December 3, 2023
  • Communication,  Grief,  Romance

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Gabriel Benois on Unsplash We are so very over Covid -19 — Zoom meetings, air hugs, frightful news, conflicting information, data overload and face masks — All of it!  We long for real gatherings, real hugs, and the freedom to breathe in the air without worry.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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