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    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020 / 2 Comments

      “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”    Dr. Seuss  July 20, 2020. John: What seemed like an ordinary Monday was anything but, all because of the vows we made to each other exactly 29 years prior. As Julie’s brother called to wish us a happy anniversary, he congratulated us and commented that we were “living the dream.” You know what? He was right.

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    John and Julie

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    The 5 “P’s” of Constructive Feedback

    March 29, 2021

    I Could Use Some Help!

    September 7, 2020

    “Zing-Zing-Zing!”

    August 16, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Perseverance

    How to FIX Your Spouse

    July 12, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo by Alex Jumper Does your spouse do anything that absolutely drives you nuts? Would you like to know how to “fix” them once and for all? Read on.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Scorekeeping in Marriage

    December 8, 2019

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018

    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Finances

    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  John Gibbons on Unsplash Most of us know someone who thrives on change.  They love to spice things up.  For them, the most maddening phrase is:  “but we’ve always done it this way.”  The rest of us find security in knowing what we know, doing what we do well and living within our comfort zone.  We recently found ourselves at a crossroads in our lives with our medical practice.  The writing on the wall said:  “Don’t expect to see a change if you aren’t willing to make one.”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    A Plea For Real Men

    November 23, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences

    The Elephant in the Living Room

    June 29, 2020 / 1 Comment

    GIF by Kyle Bridgett via Giphy Sometimes you just have to come out and say it.  There’s no point avoiding it.  There’s an elephant in the living room.

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    Nick and Jen

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    November 9, 2020
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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021
  • Communication,  Differences,  Romance,  Sex

    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020 / No Comments

    “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”  – William Shakespeare We all enter marriage with “sex-pectations” – our ideas of what our sex life will be like.  When “we can’t get enough of each other” gradually deteriorates to “not tonight,” we find ourselves feeling disappointed, hurt, even un-loved. BUT…it doesn’t have to stay that way. 

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    Ken and Janine

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    What is Sexy?

    September 6, 2018

    Marriage Is a Teeter-Totter Ride

    July 18, 2022

    3 Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress

    November 14, 2022
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Time

    Listening = Love and Respect

    June 1, 2020 / 2 Comments

    Over the years, we’ve heard a great deal about the importance of listening in marriage. This is one of those things that seems simple enough to understand, but for some reason is really hard to do consistently. The simple fact is that attentive listening is a skill and takes practice and determination. Rather than share the ways to become a better listener (you can find that information just about anywhere), we’d like to share with you some reasons why it is important to each of us to be heard.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Is It Wrong To Feel This Way?

    January 7, 2019

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    November 7, 2021
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    Choose Your Hard

    October 10, 2022
  • Communication,  Grief,  Romance

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Gabriel Benois on Unsplash We are so very over Covid -19 — Zoom meetings, air hugs, frightful news, conflicting information, data overload and face masks — All of it!  We long for real gatherings, real hugs, and the freedom to breathe in the air without worry.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    February 4, 2019

    Removing the Invisibility Cloak

    October 23, 2023
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    Love Letters

    November 1, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Perseverance

    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020 / No Comments

    You’re scrolling through a social media feed and you see happy selfies, beautiful date nights, a tantalizing plate of chocolate covered strawberries with a caption that says, “My hubby is the best!” You pause and think to yourself, ‘how do they do it?’ Our relationship doesn’t look like that.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Rule #1 for Resolving Conflict

    November 15, 2020

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    January 9, 2021

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Relatives

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020 / No Comments

    JULIE: During this bizarre time when we are all quarantined, I need reassurance that our friends and family members are safe and in a good place mentally. This is especially true of our young adult kids who are not only dealing with social isolation, but also unemployment. I also worry about our parents and siblings, especially my dad as he lives alone.

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    John and Julie

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    April 21, 2024

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    October 25, 2018

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    January 4, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Perseverance,  Time

    Marriage: Our Security in the Chaos

    April 5, 2020 / No Comments

    Paul: Our country and our world has been turned upside down these past few weeks with worry, fear, and anxiety over the Covid-19 pandemic. How does all of this affect the average married couple? How can we thrive instead of merely survive this crisis?

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    June 17, 2019

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    April 26, 2019

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