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  • Uncategorized

    Will It Matter Tomorrow?

    August 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Will it matter tomorrow . . . if the avocados were too firm to slice for salad tonight? Will it matter tomorrow if the dishwasher wasn’t loaded the way you load it? What if a favorite cotton sweater got dried on high heat with the bath towels? Will it matter tomorrow?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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  • Accountability,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance,  Stress

    Marriage Is a Teeter-Totter Ride

    July 18, 2022 / 2 Comments

    If you’ve spent time on a playground before 2004, you’ve probably hopped on a teeter-totter. Marriage is a teeter-totter ride. It can be relaxing, a gentle give and take. Marriage, like a teeter-totter can also be an experience of thrilling highs and the dizzying feeling of dropping low.

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    Are We Scrolling by Our Relationship? (Repost)

    July 14, 2025

    Marriage Wake-Up Calls

    August 7, 2023

    Get Real!

    October 30, 2023
  • Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Differences,  Making Decisions,  Stress,  Uncategorized

    Making Decisions as a Couple is a 3-Legged Race

    June 5, 2022 / No Comments

    We make several thousand decisions a day. Most are based on experience and intuition — like putting your pants on one leg at a time. But making decisions as a couple requires skill, like a 3-Legged Race. Here are some tips to cross the finish line with skin and joints intact.

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    My (insert cuss word) Valentine

    February 8, 2021

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025

    Money Matters

    October 25, 2018
  • Communication,  Listening

    The #1 Communication Problem in Marriage

    May 2, 2022 / No Comments

    The number one communication problem in marriage is that we do not listen. 80% of couples who seek marriage counseling have issues with communication. Rest assured we are normal — not perfect, but normal.

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    We Don’t Talk about That

    February 3, 2025
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    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026
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    Making Up is Hard to Do

    August 28, 2022
  • Uncategorized

    Teamwork in Marriage: Ditch the Scorekeeping Habit

    March 14, 2022 / No Comments

    Scorekeeping never wins in marriage. Why? Because no one wants to sleep with a Loser. Ditch the scorekeeping habit and you both score a win. Teamwork takes the gold.

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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 25, 2024

    Blessings to You From The Couples Post

    December 25, 2025

    A Life Well Lived is an Unfinished Symphony

    February 23, 2025
  • Uncategorized

    Start Intentional Gifting and Celebrate Your Valentine All Year

    February 14, 2022 / 2 Comments

    Valentine’s Day is second only to Christmas for gift buying. Cards say what we can’t put into words. A fancy dinner is treasured time, but flowers fade and chocolate quickly disappears. What if you could spend less and give more by offering a gift of love nearly every day? You can with Intentional Gifting.

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    January 1, 2024
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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 20, 2023
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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022
  • Behaviors,  Happiness

    Cultivating Happiness

    January 10, 2022 / No Comments

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    March 11, 2024
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    The Busy Train

    January 15, 2024

    Sacrificing vs. Generosity in Marriage: A Paradigm Shift

    June 14, 2026
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    Uncategorized

    Gratitude — It’s All Around US

    November 22, 2021 / No Comments

    Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday. This year our kids will all be home, from as far-away as Alaska. We love to cook and many hands in the kitchen will make for fun and feast. Our hearts are bursting with Gratitude. This is what we often refer to as the Big “G”. Gratitude is a Powerful Word

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    The Shoe is on the Other Foot

    August 18, 2024

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    May 26, 2025

    Easter Blessings:

    April 20, 2025
  • Uncategorized

    Hibernation Is For Bears

    October 18, 2021 / No Comments

    There is so much we love about fall . . . There is so much we love about fall — the cool crisp air and vibrant colors, the sudden absence of mosquitoes and sounds of honking geese overhead. Mother Nature has given up her bounty to our enjoyment of hearty soups, stews and chilis. Fall has so much to teach us as we venture inside, to a simpler life, and return to a routine. It is a much-needed end to a crazy summer. Time to reflect and begin again.

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    February 16, 2025

    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021
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    Happy Labor Day!

    September 5, 2022
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    Communication,  Uncategorized

    F.I.N.E.

    September 6, 2021 / No Comments

    We all know the scenario . . . How was your day? Fine. Yours? O.K. (Silence . . .). Where’s the remote? There’s no shorter lie than F.I.N.E.

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    December 9, 2024

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    August 7, 2022

    Not All Habits Are Bad

    April 10, 2022
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