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    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  John Gibbons on Unsplash Most of us know someone who thrives on change.  They love to spice things up.  For them, the most maddening phrase is:  “but we’ve always done it this way.”  The rest of us find security in knowing what we know, doing what we do well and living within our comfort zone.  We recently found ourselves at a crossroads in our lives with our medical practice.  The writing on the wall said:  “Don’t expect to see a change if you aren’t willing to make one.”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    June 10, 2019
  • Communication,  Grief,  Romance

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Gabriel Benois on Unsplash We are so very over Covid -19 — Zoom meetings, air hugs, frightful news, conflicting information, data overload and face masks — All of it!  We long for real gatherings, real hugs, and the freedom to breathe in the air without worry.

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    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020

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    August 28, 2018

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    June 24, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Love’s Sweet Spot

    March 9, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Jose Mizrahi on Unsplash Many of you are familiar with theYin-Yang symbol or the phrase “opposites attract.”  You know, the eternal optimist vs. the pessimist, the spontaneous adventurer vs. the live by the calendar person.  Let’s call them complementary, not opposite.  Think:  You are the peanut butter to my jelly or the music to my dancing shoes.

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    May 21, 2019

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    July 27, 2026
  • Communication,  Romance

    A Love That Surprises and Remembers

    February 10, 2020 / 1 Comment

    Photo Credit:  Denise Johnson Valentines Day is for Romance and Lovers.  Who doesn’t enjoy reminiscing about romance, memorable proposals and your wedding day?  These memories can often put us in the mood for romance even if we are not feeling particularly romantic.

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    August 28, 2022
  • Children,  Parenting,  Time

    50 Ways to Engage Kids

    January 13, 2020 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Jahir Martinez on Unsplash.com “A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.”  This anonymous quote (sexist wording and all) caught our eye and caused us to reflect on fun times with our kids.  As wonderful as children are, they add expense to any family budget.  Kids need love and attention; they thrive when you engage with them.  Fortunately engaging  doesn’t have to break the budget.  Engaging also creates screen-free time, lifelong values and memories.  We’ll close with a list of 50 of our favorite ways to engage kids that cost little to nothing and are all screen-free.

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    Marriage Magic

    December 16, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  Jared Lind on Unsplash As we become immersed in this holiday season we are drawn to the magic.  Recall the wonder and awe of your childhood, reindeers that fly and a Santa who made dreams come true.  Fast-forward several decades.  Remember the rush of feelings when you knew your spouse was ‘the one‘.  You reveled in discovering this person who showered you with love and support.

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    May 31, 2021

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019
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    Affirmations That Will Make Your Heart Soar!

    November 11, 2019 / No Comments

     Photo Credit:  Peter Boccia on Unsplash In our last post, we shared with you 50 ways to live an Intentional Marriage.  This week we want to focus on one — the Power of Affirmation.  The effects of self-affirmation and the power of positive thinking are well know in self-help literature.  Being affirmed by your spouse elevates this power exponentially.  In this post we will talk about what constitutes a good affirmation and why it is so effective, especially in the presence of others.

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    Intentional Marriage — 50 Ways

    October 14, 2019 / No Comments

    “Intentional” is a popular buzzword these days.  We are intentional in the workplace, in the way we handle our finances, our fitness routine, and the way we raise and discipline our children.  The list goes on and on and for good reason.  Intentional means to do something deliberately, consciously or with purpose.  It means it didn’t happen on a whim; someone planned for it to happen and persisted until it happened.

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    January 26, 2019

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    August 21, 2018

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    October 4, 2021
  • Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Time

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  Estee Janssens We hope this summer found you thriving, with plenty of time in the sun to relax and catch up with family and friends.  As these carefree days come to an end, we have some tips to help you continue to thrive. Fall gets busy —

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    November 15, 2020
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    Anger, Over the Top

    July 15, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Photo Credit: Birgit Lengert We all know anger when we see it  — a clenched fist, a raised voice, a sullen look.  Anger can quickly surface and is readily expressed, but often it is a cover up for underlying feelings: 

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