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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Forgiveness,  Stress

    How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    June 30, 2025 / No Comments

    A few years ago we saw an article with the title: How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage, by Nina Chen, Ph.D. Here’s what Dr. Chen, a Human Development Specialist, had to say: “There is no perfect marriage. Even happy, healthy marriages involve some conflict from time to time. Conflict is a normal part of sharing life with someone else. The key is to know how to deal with disagreement and conflict in a constructive way. These steps can help: 1. Set a specific time to work on the disagreement It is very important to discuss problems when both spouses can mentally and emotionally prepare. Writing down the problem before discussion…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020

    There’s An App For That!

    November 19, 2018

    Table Talk

    April 25, 2022
  • stressed out grandparents
    Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Resilience,  Stress

    Hangry?

    May 12, 2025 / No Comments

    The challenges of caring for young grandchildren can cause stress and exhaustion, which can strain a relationship. It's important to recognize triggers that impact patience and communication. Empathy, forgiveness, and the importance of healing are important in times of stress.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Making Up is Hard to Do

    June 21, 2018
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    I Get to Love You

    February 10, 2025
    signs pointing various directions

    Choose Your Hard

    October 10, 2022
  • tired couple
    Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Happiness,  Stress,  Time

    Kudos To The Tired Dad

    March 24, 2025 / No Comments

    We stumbled upon a remarkable blog post this week. It’s written by a young father whom we’ve never met. He goes by “The Tired Dad” on his blog, and we couldn’t agree more with what he says about being married but tired in this post: The Tired Dad – Marriage in the Trenches. (posted March 13, 2025) What he wrote is completely relatable for us. Here are a few Quotes from The Tired Dad’s post: Kudos to “The Tired Dad” for sharing your experience as encouragement for us all.

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    Ken and Janine

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    A Toast

    July 31, 2023

    Keeping Up with the Jones’s

    August 26, 2019

    Heart Cards

    February 7, 2022
  • Communication,  Intimacy,  Vulnerability

    We Don’t Talk about That

    February 3, 2025 / 2 Comments

    What’s the one thing (or things) you and your spouse don’t talk about?   Maybe it’s money, in-laws, or sex?    Uncomfortable Topics JANINE: Sometimes I avoid talking to Ken about how I spend my time.  I want him to see me as responsible and productive.  When I’m lazy or judge that I haven’t accomplished enough, I feel guilty and frustrated with myself.  I don’t want to talk to Ken about this because I’m scared he might agree with my judgment of myself as being lazy.  I cover up my guilt by making excuses. I put up an extra layer of protection by portraying an attitude of ‘I’m tough and have everything under…

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    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021
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    Choose Your Hard

    October 10, 2022

    I Can’t Change My Spouse

    August 7, 2022
  • Happiness,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance

    Should We Call It Quits??

    December 2, 2024 / No Comments

    A happy marriage is achievable despite challenges. Research shows divorce often doesn't lead to greater happiness, while perseverance can result in improved relationship satisfaction. Daily choices to love create positive change.

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    The Joy of Volunteering Together

    March 16, 2025
    Taking the Back Roads to a More Intimate Marriage

    Taking The Back Roads

    July 15, 2024

    Love Letters from Bellevue

    July 20, 2025
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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 25, 2024 / 3 Comments

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    Ken and Janine

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    Hibernation Is For Bears

    October 18, 2021

    Start Intentional Gifting and Celebrate Your Valentine All Year

    February 14, 2022

    Marriage is a Minefield

    May 22, 2022
  • Happily married couples
    Romance,  Transformation

    The 7 Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage

    October 14, 2024 / 3 Comments

    Here’s our ‘Short List’ of the 7 best things we’ve done that have had the biggest impact on our marriage… 1. Love Languages The 5 Love Languages – In this book, Dr Gary Chapman explains there are 5 basic love languages and we each have a primary “language.”  We might be knocking ourselves out trying to show our spouse we love them, but it doesn’t necessarily translate into him/her feeling loved….IF we’re not speaking THEIR language.  When we read this short book together and learned to speak each other’s language, it was a game changer for us.  To learn more, read: What Language are you Speaking? 2. Finances Get on the Same Page…

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    Ugh, Mom and Dad, no PDA! 🤢 (Repost)

    September 18, 2022
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    The Super-Power of Affirmation

    January 25, 2021

    Lessons Learned from Our Vagabond Life

    September 30, 2019
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    Children,  Resilience,  Romance

    The Drift 

    August 26, 2024 / No Comments

    Exciting Beginnings  We all battle something called “the drift” in marriage. Before we get into that, let’s begin with a happy story. We just attended a wedding.  It was so much fun celebrating with the newlywed couple.  At the reception, one of the groomsmen spoke about how he noticed a change in his friend (the groom) after the bride and groom met.  All of a sudden, this young man was asking for time off from work so he could spend time with the beautiful young woman in his life. He just couldn’t wait to spend time with her.    New love is quite a phenomenon, isn’t it?  There really are no…

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    50 Ways to Engage Kids

    January 13, 2020

    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019

    Ugh, Mom and Dad, no PDA!

    September 23, 2019
  • Taking the Back Roads to a More Intimate Marriage
    Communication,  Happiness,  Listening,  Time

    Taking The Back Roads

    July 15, 2024 / No Comments

    Feeling disconnected from your spouse? Just like exploring scenic back roads, carve out "carefree timelessness" for deep conversations. Learn how simple coffee talks can unlock a universe of understanding and strengthen your marriage.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Love’s Sweet Spot

    March 9, 2020

    We Are In Our Netflix Era

    July 27, 2026

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018
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    Celebrate!

    July 1, 2024 / No Comments

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    Ken and Janine

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    Be Curious

    December 17, 2023
    Merry Christmas

    Merry Christmas!

    December 23, 2024

    Into the Weeds Naked

    October 5, 2025
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