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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Forgiveness,  Stress

    How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    June 30, 2025 / No Comments

    A few years ago we saw an article with the title: How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage, by Nina Chen, Ph.D. Here’s what Dr. Chen, a Human Development Specialist, had to say: “There is no perfect marriage. Even happy, healthy marriages involve some conflict from time to time. Conflict is a normal part of sharing life with someone else. The key is to know how to deal with disagreement and conflict in a constructive way. These steps can help: 1. Set a specific time to work on the disagreement It is very important to discuss problems when both spouses can mentally and emotionally prepare. Writing down the problem before discussion…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Earning a Time Out

    August 11, 2020

    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021

    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025
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    Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Resilience,  Stress

    Hangry?

    May 12, 2025 / No Comments

    The challenges of caring for young grandchildren can cause stress and exhaustion, which can strain a relationship. It's important to recognize triggers that impact patience and communication. Empathy, forgiveness, and the importance of healing are important in times of stress.

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    June 14, 2026

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020

    Uh Oh, I Really Stepped In It Now

    February 16, 2025
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    Children,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Happiness,  Stress,  Time

    Kudos To The Tired Dad

    March 24, 2025 / No Comments

    We stumbled upon a remarkable blog post this week. It’s written by a young father whom we’ve never met. He goes by “The Tired Dad” on his blog, and we couldn’t agree more with what he says about being married but tired in this post: The Tired Dad – Marriage in the Trenches. (posted March 13, 2025) What he wrote is completely relatable for us. Here are a few Quotes from The Tired Dad’s post: Kudos to “The Tired Dad” for sharing your experience as encouragement for us all.

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    The Empty Nest Revisited

    November 28, 2022

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

    January 8, 2024

    Was it Bad Parenting or Making Memories?

    October 31, 2022
  • Communication,  Intimacy,  Vulnerability

    We Don’t Talk about That

    February 3, 2025 / 2 Comments

    What’s the one thing (or things) you and your spouse don’t talk about?   Maybe it’s money, in-laws, or sex?    Uncomfortable Topics JANINE: Sometimes I avoid talking to Ken about how I spend my time.  I want him to see me as responsible and productive.  When I’m lazy or judge that I haven’t accomplished enough, I feel guilty and frustrated with myself.  I don’t want to talk to Ken about this because I’m scared he might agree with my judgment of myself as being lazy.  I cover up my guilt by making excuses. I put up an extra layer of protection by portraying an attitude of ‘I’m tough and have everything under…

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    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022

    The Healing Power of Touch

    July 22, 2024

    3 Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress

    November 14, 2022
  • Happiness,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance

    Should We Call It Quits??

    December 2, 2024 / No Comments

    A happy marriage is achievable despite challenges. Research shows divorce often doesn't lead to greater happiness, while perseverance can result in improved relationship satisfaction. Daily choices to love create positive change.

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    August 21, 2023
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    The Joy of Volunteering Together

    March 16, 2025

    Peeling the Onion of Intimacy in Marriage

    February 21, 2022
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    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 25, 2024 / 3 Comments

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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022

    Marriage Lessons Learned from Tango

    May 5, 2025

    Life is Full of Risks

    March 6, 2023
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    Romance,  Transformation

    The 7 Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage

    October 14, 2024 / 3 Comments

    Here’s our ‘Short List’ of the 7 best things we’ve done that have had the biggest impact on our marriage… 1. Love Languages The 5 Love Languages – In this book, Dr Gary Chapman explains there are 5 basic love languages and we each have a primary “language.”  We might be knocking ourselves out trying to show our spouse we love them, but it doesn’t necessarily translate into him/her feeling loved….IF we’re not speaking THEIR language.  When we read this short book together and learned to speak each other’s language, it was a game changer for us.  To learn more, read: What Language are you Speaking? 2. Finances Get on the Same Page…

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    March 31, 2025

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    May 25, 2020
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    The Drift 

    August 26, 2024
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    Children,  Resilience,  Romance

    The Drift 

    August 26, 2024 / No Comments

    Exciting Beginnings  We all battle something called “the drift” in marriage. Before we get into that, let’s begin with a happy story. We just attended a wedding.  It was so much fun celebrating with the newlywed couple.  At the reception, one of the groomsmen spoke about how he noticed a change in his friend (the groom) after the bride and groom met.  All of a sudden, this young man was asking for time off from work so he could spend time with the beautiful young woman in his life. He just couldn’t wait to spend time with her.    New love is quite a phenomenon, isn’t it?  There really are no…

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    July 31, 2023

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    December 14, 2020
  • Taking the Back Roads to a More Intimate Marriage
    Communication,  Happiness,  Listening,  Time

    Taking The Back Roads

    July 15, 2024 / No Comments

    Feeling disconnected from your spouse? Just like exploring scenic back roads, carve out "carefree timelessness" for deep conversations. Learn how simple coffee talks can unlock a universe of understanding and strengthen your marriage.

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    August 31, 2020

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    July 18, 2022

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    December 21, 2020
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    Celebrate!

    July 1, 2024 / No Comments

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    February 14, 2022

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    March 1, 2026
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