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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Differences,  Forgiveness,  Perseverance,  Stress

    Haven’t we had this fight before?

    October 21, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo by Vera Arsic from Pexels Jen: Life, kids, work and extra-curricular activities suck up so much of our energy each day, that when it comes to interacting with each other, we are often at the end of our rope. When we are having a disagreement we’ve had more than once, I feel worn down and don’t want to deal with it.

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    Nick and Jen

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    February 10, 2020

    Hurtful Attitudes in Marriage

    May 28, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Time

    Intentional Marriage — 50 Ways

    October 14, 2019 / No Comments

    “Intentional” is a popular buzzword these days.  We are intentional in the workplace, in the way we handle our finances, our fitness routine, and the way we raise and discipline our children.  The list goes on and on and for good reason.  Intentional means to do something deliberately, consciously or with purpose.  It means it didn’t happen on a whim; someone planned for it to happen and persisted until it happened.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    October 2, 2023

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    June 1, 2020
  • Children,  Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Time

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019 / No Comments

    We recently went to Disneyland with our  adult daughter and our 2 year old granddaughter. All three adults had high hopes for a fun-filled family time at the “happiest” place on earth. When naysayers told us we were crazy for taking a two year old to Disneyland, we scoffed at them. We’ve been there, done this before. But we hadn’t been there, done that with a toddler. The crowds, a cranky toddler, and plenty of unmet expectations led to a communication breakdown that was a debacle for all of us. None of us ended up having much fun and we left a day early.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    October 11, 2021

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  • Finances,  Romance

    Lessons Learned from Our Vagabond Life

    September 30, 2019 / 1 Comment

      Ken:  In 2016 I began working short term job assignments, which has given us the opportunity to live in 5 different states within a very short time.  If someone had told us 5 or 10 years ago that we’d be away from our home 95% of the year we wouldn’t have believed it.  Since our kids are all grown and gone, we decided to give it a try – for at least a few months – and here we are 3 years later, still loving it. Photo by Dids at Pexels Most people probably won’t have the opportunity to pick up and live this way, but we hope you…

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    June 5, 2023
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    May 4, 2026

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    August 5, 2019
  • Children,  Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Romance

    Ugh, Mom and Dad, no PDA!

    September 23, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Nick: Call it a “sixth sense,” but I can tell when my kids’ eyes are on Jen and me.  I can practically hear their eyes rolling whenever we touch each other.

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    December 13, 2021
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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness

    How We Saved Our Failing Marriage

    September 9, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: We just celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary and we’ve never been happier. But it wasn’t always that way. Around year 7 of our marriage, we began to struggle. And we did what so many married couples do – ignored the warning signs telling ourselves things were not that bad. We swept issues between us under the rug and after another 5 years of sweeping there was no more room under the rug! We were just roommates co-existing in the same  household each playing our respective roles.

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    Is There Technoference in Your Marriage?

    June 13, 2022

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019
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    Love Letters

    November 1, 2021
  • Communication,  Forgiveness

    Our Ketchup Story

    September 2, 2019 / No Comments

    Janine:  I used to read into everything Ken said – well almost everything.  If he made a simple comment, I often took it as a personal criticism, even though he didn’t intend it to be.  We still talk about the day, years ago, when he said, “Gee, we’re almost out of ketchup.”

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    May 17, 2021

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    April 8, 2019

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    March 7, 2022
  • Children,  Parenting,  Time

    Keeping Up with the Jones’s

    August 26, 2019 / No Comments

    Jen: As we approach the craziness of a new school year with our kiddos, I am struck once again by how tempting it is to compete with other parents in comparing kid activities. Even when they were in pre-school, I can remember having conversations about where my kids were developmentally and what their achievements were. I can remember how much angst I felt when I thought someone else’s child was achieving more than mine simply because I hadn’t signed them up for enough extra activities. I found myself doubting that we were doing enough to help our children reach their full potential.

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    December 14, 2020

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    November 15, 2020

    Keeping Your Marriage Sane While Quarantined

    March 30, 2020
  • Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Time

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  Estee Janssens We hope this summer found you thriving, with plenty of time in the sun to relax and catch up with family and friends.  As these carefree days come to an end, we have some tips to help you continue to thrive. Fall gets busy —

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  • Decision to Love,  Romance

    Dancing in the Kitchen

    August 12, 2019 / 3 Comments

    Janine:  This weekend we celebrated our 29th Wedding Anniversary!  Yay!   Ken was on call for work, so we couldn’t go far, and we didn’t want to try to go out for a nice meal, for fear that it might be interrupted.  Here’s what we DID do.

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    July 19, 2020

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