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  • Communication,  Forgiveness

    Our Ketchup Story

    September 2, 2019 / No Comments

    Janine:  I used to read into everything Ken said – well almost everything.  If he made a simple comment, I often took it as a personal criticism, even though he didn’t intend it to be.  We still talk about the day, years ago, when he said, “Gee, we’re almost out of ketchup.”

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    Ken and Janine

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    In Sickness and In Health

    August 15, 2022

    Walking Down Memory Lane

    November 7, 2021

    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020
  • Children,  Parenting,  Time

    Keeping Up with the Jones’s

    August 26, 2019 / No Comments

    Jen: As we approach the craziness of a new school year with our kiddos, I am struck once again by how tempting it is to compete with other parents in comparing kid activities. Even when they were in pre-school, I can remember having conversations about where my kids were developmentally and what their achievements were. I can remember how much angst I felt when I thought someone else’s child was achieving more than mine simply because I hadn’t signed them up for enough extra activities. I found myself doubting that we were doing enough to help our children reach their full potential.

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    Nick and Jen

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    September 11, 2018

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    October 29, 2019

    Don’t Forget to Laugh

    January 13, 2025
  • Children,  Communication,  Parenting,  Time

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit:  Estee Janssens We hope this summer found you thriving, with plenty of time in the sun to relax and catch up with family and friends.  As these carefree days come to an end, we have some tips to help you continue to thrive. Fall gets busy —

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Beyond biology: Where Do Babies Come From?

    August 3, 2021
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    July 31, 2023

    KFC – It’s What’s for Mother’s Day!

    May 4, 2021
  • Decision to Love,  Romance

    Dancing in the Kitchen

    August 12, 2019 / 3 Comments

    Janine:  This weekend we celebrated our 29th Wedding Anniversary!  Yay!   Ken was on call for work, so we couldn’t go far, and we didn’t want to try to go out for a nice meal, for fear that it might be interrupted.  Here’s what we DID do.

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    Ken and Janine

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    The Benefit of the Doubt

    August 31, 2020

    Empathy, Is It Contagious? For You Baby…

    August 21, 2018
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    A Clean Slate

    January 2, 2023
  • Communication,  Finances,  Perseverance

    3 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

    August 5, 2019 / No Comments

    Adapted from: 3 Defenses Against Affairs, by William McKenna People are not getting married in large numbers and why would they? Statistics show that about half of all marriages end in divorce. Television shows and movies often depict marriage in a negative light while leading viewers to celebrate when a character has an affair like it is inevitable and desirable. While no two marriages are exactly alike, there are some very basic and proven ways to “affair-proof” your marriage.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    What is Love Asking of Me Now?

    May 6, 2024

    Marriage is a VERB

    March 11, 2019
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    F.I.N.E.

    September 6, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Time

    Taking Your Marriage on Vacation

    July 29, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Photo by Wilson Sánchez Nine years into marriage, we were planning to leave town to visit family after Mark worked a half day. Mel packed up the kids and the car, and Mark just needed to throw in his suitcase. Mark was delayed several hours at work. By the time we met up, we were both irritated and highly stressed and just

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    September 21, 2020
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    January 19, 2026

    Letters to Joy

    October 4, 2021
  • Communication

    Tone of Voice – Revisited

    July 22, 2019 / No Comments

    This post originally appeared one year ago, but has been re-posted for those who may have missed it the first time around. Something that we’ve become increasingly aware of in our marriage is how our tone of voice so significantly affects our communication – for better or for worse! It is remarkable how something so seemingly small can make such a huge impact on whether our communication is healthy, productive, and enriching or debilitating, disheartening, and provocative. Believe it or not, tone of voice is huge. WE would go as far as to say tone of voice is at the root of most of the small hurts we experience in…

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    30 for 30! A Tidbit of Advice for Each Year of Marriage

    May 31, 2021

    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020

    Walking Down Memory Lane

    November 7, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Anger, Over the Top

    July 15, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Photo Credit: Birgit Lengert We all know anger when we see it  — a clenched fist, a raised voice, a sullen look.  Anger can quickly surface and is readily expressed, but often it is a cover up for underlying feelings: 

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Top 10 Tips to Ruin Your Marriage 

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    A Love That Surprises and Remembers

    February 10, 2020

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019
  • Romance,  Sex

    7 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

    July 8, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Is sex a priority in your marriage? Sexuality is an important ingredient for a healthy marriage. Here are 7 tips to help….

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    Ken and Janine

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    March 15, 2021

    Lessons Learned from Our Vagabond Life

    September 30, 2019

    Dancing in the Kitchen

    August 12, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Relatives

    Words – The Seeds of Life in Marriage

    July 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: Until recently, I figured it was fine for me to say whatever was on my mind as that meant I was being truthful and authentic with Stephanie. Then it dawned on me that some of those words are hurtful and have the potential to wound her.

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    February 21, 2022

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    June 19, 2023

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    June 21, 2018
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