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    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019 / 2 Comments

    Photo Credit: Steve Halama You may have heard marriage described as a 50/50 proposition with each partner contributing 50% to equal the presumed goal of 100%.  While marriage is not a game, it is common to judge our effort like contestants in a competition.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Parenting as a Team

    March 16, 2020
    Total eclipse of the heart

    Total Eclipse of the Heart

    April 15, 2024

    Reaching Out – Together

    April 20, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Do you find yourself wondering, “What happened to us?!?!”  At some point, we all do.  We long for those days when we were dating and first married.  We were full of passion for each other and so in love.  Our lovemaking was frequent and passionate.  It seemed we couldn’t get enough of each other.  How did we get to a place where we were rubbing together like sandpaper, each doing our own thing?

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    Ken and Janine

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    Who Wants More Sex?

    July 25, 2022

    Listening = Love and Respect

    June 1, 2020
    Taking the Back Roads to a More Intimate Marriage

    Taking The Back Roads

    July 15, 2024
  • Stress,  Time

    Sacred Space

    March 25, 2019 / No Comments

    Steph: Do you have enough time in your day to quiet your mind long enough to reflect on your life? Life is so busy with work, chores, children’s activities, that I find it hard to allow my mind to wander and dream. It seems I have to put a reminder on my phone for everything.  If I don’t set aside even a small amount of time each day for peace, quiet, and reflection, how can I ever find the space to ask life’s big questions (or even the little ones)?

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Got Stress?

    July 27, 2020

    Laughter & Sex… That’s What She Said

    May 10, 2021

    The Thief

    July 17, 2023
  • Communication,  Romance,  Time

    Try Something New

    March 18, 2019 / No Comments

    How long has it been since you tried something new together as a couple? Recently we decided to try something completely new to us, and we were surprised how much we enjoyed it.

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    Mark and Mel

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    5 Things Men Want

    March 1, 2021

    Marriage Is a Teeter-Totter Ride

    July 18, 2022

    Marriage Manners Matter

    June 17, 2019
  • Communication,  Differences,  Making Decisions

    Marriage is a VERB

    March 11, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb.  It isn’t something you get.  It’s something you do.  It’s the way you love your partner every day.”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Sex-pectations

    June 15, 2020

    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021

    Marriage Manners Matter

    June 17, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Yes, this is a strange twist.  We recently heard about James J Sexton’s book,“If You’re in My Office, It’s Already Too Late.”  James is a divorce attorney from New York, who started noticing some patterns after 20 years of working with couples whose marriages were ending.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Arguing Couple

    “Just Let Me do That!”

    August 8, 2021

    The Happiest Place on Earth – NOT (this time)

    October 7, 2019
    Boomerang baby

    Boomerang Baby

    June 20, 2022
  • Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Stress

    In-Laws or Outlaws?

    February 26, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: For many married couples, in-laws can be a source of great stress and discontent. We are fortunate that our experience has been very different. When we were first married, I really appreciated how my parents treated Stephanie like their own daughter. They engaged her in meaningful conversation, sought out her opinion about things, and made it a point to include her in all family events.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Lovemaking in the Context of Healing

    January 15, 2019

    It’s Not About the Dress

    July 6, 2018

    Empathy, Is It Contagious? For You Baby…

    August 21, 2018
  • Differences

    Teamwork

    February 18, 2019 / 1 Comment

    We received a request to share on the topic of teamwork.  Good topic! Every marriage is based in teamwork – we chose our partner to team up with in life.  Like most marriages, we have had times when we pull together in the same direction and times when we are fighting against each other.  Over the years, we have found ways to maximize working TOGETHER as a team.

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    Mark and Mel

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    4 Steps to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    January 16, 2022
    Money talk

    Money Talk

    June 5, 2023
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    Money Can’t Buy Me Love… 😍

    May 23, 2021
  • Decision to Love,  Romance,  Sex

    The Secret Recipe of Intimacy

    February 11, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Soroush Karimi In our last post we hinted at the complexity of intimacy, especially in the context of forgiveness and healing (1/13/19).  Intimacy involves more than sex.  In fact sex can sometimes be anything but intimate. Many authors and psychologists speak of at least 4 components to deep and sustained intimacy.  They often include emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical intimacy.  We like to think of this as the ‘Secret Recipe.’ To achieve this Intimacy we both need to desire and be willing to work towards intimacy.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    I Could Use Some Help!

    September 7, 2020

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018

    Empathy, Is It Contagious? For You Baby…

    August 21, 2018
  • Communication

    Talk to Me

    February 4, 2019 / No Comments

    Ken:  When we were dating, it seemed we could talk all night, and sometimes we did.  During our engagement, there was so much to talk and dream about together…our future, a home, kids, jobs, adventures. Janine:  I remember the 10 hour road trip we took so I could meet Ken’s Mom for the first time.  All the way there and back, we talked and talked.  Fast forward about 5 or 6 years though, and I remember sitting in a restaurant, just the two of us, with nothing to say to each other.  Silence.  Ken:  Do most of your conversations center around the kids or problems at work or the honey-do…

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    Ken and Janine

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    December 21, 2020

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    September 6, 2018
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    June 20, 2022
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