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    Little Moments in Time

    July 25, 2023 / No Comments

    The word summer brings to mind images of relaxing on the beach, swimming in the pool, hiking, picnicking and the like. Every summer we have high hopes that we will get to enjoy some lazy days and lolly-gagging, taking life at a slower pace and relaxing.

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    Nick and Jen

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    Don’t Forget to Laugh

    January 13, 2025

    Should We Call It Quits??

    December 2, 2024
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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022
  • Behaviors,  Happiness,  Stress

    The Thief

    July 17, 2023 / 2 Comments

    You may not realize it, but you’re being robbed. Right now.  The thief comes in many forms. It comes in the form of stress, anxiety, fear of failure, addiction, self-centeredness, or letting ourselves get too busy.  No matter what form the thief comes in, it does the same thing every time. It robs us of the joy, peace and closeness with each other.   Finances, in-laws, problems with sex, lack of communication, work, “busyness,” hobbies…  Whatever our “thief” is… Why do we let this thief take over? And what could be more important than re-evaluating, re-prioritizing and NOT letting any thief rob us of joy?  Ken: The thief strikes most…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Practice What You Preach

    March 3, 2025
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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025

    We Are More Than a Single Story

    December 12, 2022
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    Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Happiness,  Perseverance

    Lost that Lovin’ feeling?

    May 29, 2023 / 2 Comments

    Has your marriage turned out like you hoped it would?  We all come into marriage with expectations, many of which don’t pan out. Janine:  I grew up surrounded by my parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents who were all in solid, committed marriages.  My Mom and Dad worked side by side, and I admired how they had long conversations about the day’s events and their plans for the future.  I expected that someday, my husband and I would also work side by side and enjoy long talks.   Ken:  Many of the marriages I witnessed as a child were less than ideal. My parents were divorced. I was determined things would be…

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    Ken and Janine

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    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020

    The Healing Power of Touch

    July 22, 2024
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    Boomerang Baby

    June 20, 2022
  • Behaviors,  Happiness,  Playfulness

    Smiling is a Superpower

    February 28, 2023 / No Comments

    Michelle: I think that at some point in every person’s life, they dream about what kind of superhero they might be and what powers they might have.  When I was a child, I wasn’t sure what my costume would look like or my catchphrase might be, but when I envisioned myself striking that superhero pose, I was there to turn frowns upside-down!  A few years ago, I went to a laughter therapy seminar.  During this seminar, the presenter shared that there have been multiple studies regarding smiling and success.  In one such study, scientists conducted research over a thirty-year period. They reviewed five hundred student’s yearbook photos and, measuring just the student’s smile, were able…

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Loving Each Other in Spite of Our Differences

    Loving Each Other in Spite of Our Differences

    April 4, 2022

    Why Go It Alone

    April 3, 2023
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    Contagious Love

    May 8, 2023
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    Happiness,  Playfulness

    Time with Friends

    October 17, 2022 / No Comments

    Julie I just got back from spending time with friends on a long “girls’ weekend.”  I’ve known these amazing women for almost 40 years, significantly longer than I’ve known John.  We had a fantastic time together in Florida reminiscing about those early years together in college as well as catching up with what’s currently happening in our lives.  There is something so indescribably comforting about being with people who knew you when, who suspend all judgment, and who are more like sisters than friends. We really enjoyed being able to rekindle and renew our friendships in person, especially after these past few pandemic-dominated years. 

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    John and Julie

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    July 20, 2025
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    Little Things

    January 24, 2022

    Our Anti-Resolution List

    January 1, 2024
  • Celebrate good times
    Happiness,  Romance

    Celebrate Good Times – Come On!

    September 12, 2022 / No Comments

    Julie: It’s been a party kind of month!  First, we celebrated my dad’s 85th birthday, and then the following weekend, we celebrated John’s parents’ 60th wedding anniversary.  Those are impressive numbers!  This got us thinking about what life might be like for us if we are fortunate enough to celebrate these milestones in our own lives. 

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    John and Julie

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    We’re Broken  

    January 12, 2026

    Heart Cards

    February 7, 2022

    What Was Your Success Today?

    November 3, 2025
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    Communication,  Happiness,  Making Decisions

    Dream a Little Dream with Me

    August 1, 2022 / No Comments

    “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”    Dr. Seuss  July 20, 2020. John: What seemed like an ordinary Monday was anything but, all because of the vows we made to each other exactly 29 years prior. As Julie’s brother called to wish us a happy anniversary, he congratulated us and commented that we were “living the dream.” You know what? He was right. (And two years later, we’re still “living the dream.”)

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    John and Julie

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    Rule #1 for Resolving Conflict

    November 15, 2020

    The Empty Nest Repopulated – 4 Ways to make it Great!

    October 26, 2020

    How We Saved Our Failing Marriage

    September 9, 2019
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    The Spontaneity Spark

    May 16, 2022 / No Comments

    Julie John and I are both planners.  We make lists and spreadsheets for everything.  We research every option before making a decision.  We weigh the pros and cons.  Spontaneity is not something that comes naturally to either of us as individuals or to us as a couple. 

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    John and Julie

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    A Toast

    July 31, 2023

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    June 12, 2024
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    Marriage – the Olympics of Relationships

    February 23, 2026
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Happiness

    Peeling the Onion of Intimacy in Marriage

    February 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Do you feel disconnected or lonely in your marriage? Let’s talk about Peeling the Onion of Emotional Intimacy.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020

    When In Doubt, Just Get Naked

    April 21, 2024

    3 Life Lessons From the Movie ‘Wicked’

    December 9, 2024
  • Children,  Communication,  Happiness

    Heart Cards

    February 7, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Chris: With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, we were inspired to share how our daughter’s holiday assignment led to a new take on a traditional symbol. When our daughter was in the second grade, the teacher challenged the class to make their own Valentine’s cards.  As she got in the car from school, she told me about her assignment.  Her concern: “I don’t love everyone in my class.  I don’t want to put a heart on every card.”   My suggestion: “When we get home, look up what a human heart really looks like.”  When Michelle arrived home that evening, Taryn had 14 Valentine’s cards with a typical heart shape on them AND 9 cards…

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    Chris and Michelle

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    Happy Holidays? In 2020? Yes!

    December 14, 2020
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    The Empty Nest Revisited

    November 28, 2022

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019
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