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  • marriage requires commitment like the olympics
    Behaviors,  Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Forgiveness,  Growth,  Happiness,  Perseverance,  Resilience

    Marriage – the Olympics of Relationships

    February 23, 2026 / 2 Comments

    Julie: John and I have really enjoyed watching the Olympics these past couple of weeks. Medals are won by fractions of a second. Partnerships are tested under pressure. Expectations run high. There is disappointment and elation. Marriage is the Olympics of Relationships. Both require preparation, endurance, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to something bigger than yourself.

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    John and Julie

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    Ready for a Marriage Check-up?

    February 16, 2026 / No Comments

    If someone asks, “How’s your marriage?” how would you answer? It’s hard to give an objective answer. This week, we offer a short quiz you can take to evaluate how things are going in your marriage. Before we can move toward the goal of a better marriage, we need to know where we are currently.  Doing this Marriage Check-up exercise helped us take stock of how we were doing. Here’s what we learned…  We had a couple areas where Ken’s scores were higher than Janine’s (or vice-versa) – Parenting and Spirituality. We agreed the area where we struggle the most as a couple was Conflict Resolution. This all led to some…

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    Ken and Janine

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    Behaviors,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Intimacy,  Making Decisions,  Time

    Time-out!

    January 19, 2026 / No Comments

    Julie:  Let’s be honest—life gets busy. Between work, kids, errands, and the never-ending to-do list, it’s so easy for your marriage to slip down your list of priorities. You’re not alone if you’ve ever looked at your spouse at the end of a long day and realized you haven’t really connected, maybe not even had a real conversation, in days or even weeks. But here’s the thing – taking a time-out for your marriage isn’t just something that’s nice to do. It’s the foundation that keeps everything else in your life running smoothly.

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    The Kindness Challenge

    January 4, 2026 / 1 Comment

    Kindness 'makes the world go round.' Welcome 2026 with a 30-Day Kindness Challenge. Pass it on!

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    Opposites Attract

    December 15, 2025 / 1 Comment

    Michelle: I love watching Dancing with the Stars. Chris: I love watching Ghost Hunters and I hate that I know the pros, past and present, who have been on Dancing with the Stars. Michelle: One of the pros, Mark Ballas, sings with his wife when he is not performing or rehearsing for a Tuesday night show. Chris: One afternoon, Michelle sent me the song, Highs and Lows, by Alexander Jean (the band formed by Mark Ballas and his wife Brittney Jean). Michelle sent it with a text that read, “This is so us.” Michelle: I remember as a child, hearing that opposites attract and being confused by the concept. My…

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    Verbal Judo – Harmonizing Your Tone of Voice

    September 14, 2025 / 2 Comments

    Some time ago, we wrote about the importance of being aware of the Tone of Voice we use with our spouse. The gist of the post was that our Tone of Voice is the key culprit that begins most disagreements, hurts, and fights between spouses. We want to revisit this important topic and provide some additional helpful hints we’ve learned along the way.

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    Haven’t we had this fight before?

    August 25, 2025 / No Comments

    Jen: Life, kids, work and extra-curricular activities suck up so much of our energy each day, that when it comes to interacting with each other, we are often at the end of our rope. When we are having a disagreement we’ve had more than once, I feel worn down and don’t want to deal with it.

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    Hangry?

    May 12, 2025 / No Comments

    The challenges of caring for young grandchildren can cause stress and exhaustion, which can strain a relationship. It's important to recognize triggers that impact patience and communication. Empathy, forgiveness, and the importance of healing are important in times of stress.

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    The Real Challenge of a Relationship

    April 13, 2025 / 1 Comment

    “The real challenge of a relationship is not in loving. The real challenge of a relationship is in allowing ourselves to be loved.” We heard this statement at a recent day of reflection we attended, entitled, “Living a Life of Freedom.” The program was presented by Paul Coutinho, Ph.D. Dr. Coutinho spoke of the importance of relationships, both with God and with each other. Dr. Coutinho went on to say that we can only truly love when we are loved. God’s Love Cannot Be Contained – Sacred Doorways It is often easier to love Scott: The challenge of being loved is certainly true in our relationship. Loving Karen does not…

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    Spring Cleaning

    March 31, 2025 / 1 Comment

    JULIE In the wee hours of the morning of March 20, Spring quietly tiptoed in while we were sleeping!  And although the layer of snow we received later in the day suggested otherwise, another winter had passed.  The time for new life had begun, and with that also came Spring cleaning.

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