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    Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say

    August 13, 2023 / 1 Comment

    Seriously, Don’t hide the chocolate! Lesson learned: “Say what you mean. Mean what you say.”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Pushing Buttons

    September 21, 2020
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    Sex — Naughty or Nice?

    June 27, 2021

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019
  • Decision to Love

    Mud in the Backyard

    July 9, 2023 / No Comments

    Mud in the backyard. You might think there is a metaphor in that. Maybe there is.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    A Toast

    July 31, 2023
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    Little Things

    January 24, 2022

    Tell Her She’s Pretty and Let Him Go Golfing

    January 18, 2021
  • Uncategorized

    Sacrificing in Marriage Can Lead to Resentment

    May 22, 2023 / No Comments

    Marriage often requires and benefits from sacrifice. It is a willingness to put your partner’s needs above your own. In a study published in 2021, it was shown that sacrificing in a marriage can lead to resentment and other ‘hidden costs’ like anger and guilt.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Be Curious

    December 17, 2023
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    Gratitude — It’s All Around US

    November 22, 2021

    Celebrate!

    July 1, 2024
  • Grief,  Honesty,  Making Decisions,  Stress

    Out of the Mouth of Babes

    April 16, 2023 / No Comments

    Out of the Mouth of Babes . . . Several weeks ago, we got a 7-month old standard poodle, Jazzy. Our 2 cats were quite perturbed as they had not been included in the decision. They were rampant with emotion and the cat tree became their safe haven.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    The Healing Power of Touch

    July 22, 2024

    April 19th

    April 19, 2021
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    The World Turned Upside-Down

    October 13, 2025
  • Uncategorized

    Life is Full of Risks

    March 6, 2023 / 2 Comments

    Life is full of Risks. Financial, emotional, and physical – we take them all the time. There is nothing more endearing than hearing, “Again! Again! Again!” after swinging a toddler in the air. Children instinctively take risks. As we age, risk taking becomes intentional, calculated and requires effort, but staying in the safe zone is also taking a risk.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Merry Christmas!

    December 23, 2024

    Teamwork in Marriage: Ditch the Scorekeeping Habit

    March 14, 2022
    Happy Thanksgiving

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 20, 2023
  • Accountability,  Differences

    Opposites Don’t Attract — They Attack

    January 29, 2023 / 1 Comment

    Let’s debunk the myth that “Opposites attract” once and for all. We are attracted to our spouse because they complement us. They bring completeness to our lives. In a relationship completeness is more than finding the missing piece to a puzzle. When the puzzle is done, it’s satisfying, but no longer fun and interesting.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Table Talk

    April 25, 2022

    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021

    The Grace of Healing

    April 28, 2025
  • Uncategorized

    Have New Year’s Resolutions Become Cliche?

    December 26, 2022 / No Comments

    Millions of people make New Year’s resolutions. Some make the same resolution year after year. It doesn’t take statistics to show we are not great at keeping them. Have New Year’s resolutions become cliche? Or are we making the wrong resolutions, or the right resolutions but for the wrong reasons?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Gratitude — It’s All Around US

    November 22, 2021

    Making Decisions as a Couple is a 3-Legged Race

    June 5, 2022

    Be Curious

    December 17, 2023
  • Behaviors,  Communication,  Honesty,  Making Decisions,  Playfulness,  Stress,  Time

    3 Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress

    November 14, 2022 / No Comments

    Like it or not, the Holidays are upon us. Jack-o-Lanterns may still be on the porches, but Christmas will be here before we know it. Here are 3 practical tips to reduce Holiday stress and find Joy as the Countdown to Christmas continues.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Speaking In Code

    January 23, 2023

    3 Ways to Date Your Spouse

    September 30, 2024
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    4 Ways to Keep the Sexual Pilot Light Lit

    March 21, 2022
  • Uncategorized

    Will It Matter Tomorrow?

    August 21, 2022 / 1 Comment

    Will it matter tomorrow . . . if the avocados were too firm to slice for salad tonight? Will it matter tomorrow if the dishwasher wasn’t loaded the way you load it? What if a favorite cotton sweater got dried on high heat with the bath towels? Will it matter tomorrow?

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Easter Blessings:

    April 20, 2025

    The Power of Gratitude in Marriage

    November 17, 2024

    Marriage is a Minefield

    May 22, 2022
  • Accountability,  Communication,  Decision to Love,  Making Decisions,  Perseverance,  Stress

    Marriage Is a Teeter-Totter Ride

    July 18, 2022 / 2 Comments

    If you’ve spent time on a playground before 2004, you’ve probably hopped on a teeter-totter. Marriage is a teeter-totter ride. It can be relaxing, a gentle give and take. Marriage, like a teeter-totter can also be an experience of thrilling highs and the dizzying feeling of dropping low.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Does Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder?

    September 10, 2023

    Get Real!

    October 30, 2023

    Are We Scrolling by Our Relationship?

    November 26, 2023
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