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Sacrificing in Marriage Can Lead to Resentment
Marriage often requires and benefits from sacrifice. It is a willingness to put your partner’s needs above your own. In a study published in 2021, it was shown that sacrificing in a marriage can lead to resentment and other ‘hidden costs’ like anger and guilt.
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Lessons Learned We Have
Chris: I may be a bit biased, but I think very few movie franchises have had the global reach that Star Wars has. With their relatable characters, incredible fight scenes and ethical dilemmas, Star Wars has something for everyone. I think my wife, on the other hand, only watches because she knows how much I enjoy them. So, imagine my surprise, when Michelle said, “I think some of the lessons in Star Wars could be applicable to marriage.” My heart burst with pride and I couldn’t wait to get started. So, travel with us to a galaxy far, far away and we will share marriage lessons learned from Star Wars. Michelle: Lesson One: It is…
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Life is Full of Risks
Life is full of Risks. Financial, emotional, and physical – we take them all the time. There is nothing more endearing than hearing, “Again! Again! Again!” after swinging a toddler in the air. Children instinctively take risks. As we age, risk taking becomes intentional, calculated and requires effort, but staying in the safe zone is also taking a risk.
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Have New Year’s Resolutions Become Cliche?
Millions of people make New Year’s resolutions. Some make the same resolution year after year. It doesn’t take statistics to show we are not great at keeping them. Have New Year’s resolutions become cliche? Or are we making the wrong resolutions, or the right resolutions but for the wrong reasons?
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The Kindness Challenge
We recently read Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Kindness Challenge, and loved it. I value kindness in myself and long to see this virtue once again be a standard in our society. She drives home the point that practicing kindness not only makes you a kinder person, but also opens your eyes to the kindness around you. It can create a positive spiral in any relationship, in your home, the workplace, your community and dare we say it — in our world!
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Happy Labor Day!
From The Couples Post family to yours, have a safe and memorable Labor Day!
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Will It Matter Tomorrow?
Will it matter tomorrow . . . if the avocados were too firm to slice for salad tonight? Will it matter tomorrow if the dishwasher wasn’t loaded the way you load it? What if a favorite cotton sweater got dried on high heat with the bath towels? Will it matter tomorrow?
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Making Decisions as a Couple is a 3-Legged Race
We make several thousand decisions a day. Most are based on experience and intuition — like putting your pants on one leg at a time. But making decisions as a couple requires skill, like a 3-Legged Race. Here are some tips to cross the finish line with skin and joints intact.
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Marriage is a Minefield
We walked into marriage blissfully unaware of any danger. Although we did get advice from more seasoned couples, nobody warned us that marriage is a minefield. Careless Early Explosions Jen: When we had only been married for about three years, we stepped on one of our first big landmines. It started out as a conversation about balancing the checkbook. We took turns with this task and looking at our finances so we both could see how our money was spent, but our perspectives were different. Nick was the main breadwinner while I was the main caretaker at home. Our different responsibilities made us biased to our own perspectives. Instead of…
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The Spontaneity Spark
Julie John and I are both planners. We make lists and spreadsheets for everything. We research every option before making a decision. We weigh the pros and cons. Spontaneity is not something that comes naturally to either of us as individuals or to us as a couple.
