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  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Anger, Over the Top

    July 15, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Photo Credit: Birgit Lengert We all know anger when we see it  — a clenched fist, a raised voice, a sullen look.  Anger can quickly surface and is readily expressed, but often it is a cover up for underlying feelings: 

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Annual Marriage Tune-Up

    August 23, 2020

    Who Wants More Sex?

    July 25, 2022

    What is Love Asking of Me Now?

    May 6, 2024
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Relatives

    Words – The Seeds of Life in Marriage

    July 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: Until recently, I figured it was fine for me to say whatever was on my mind as that meant I was being truthful and authentic with Stephanie. Then it dawned on me that some of those words are hurtful and have the potential to wound her.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    What Happened to the Person I Married?

    January 20, 2020

    How We Saved Our Failing Marriage

    September 9, 2019

    In Sickness and In Health

    April 15, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Tidying Up Your Marriage KonMari Style

    June 10, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Jimmy Ofisia MF:  One rainy spring weekend we came to a new insight about clutter and our marriage  as we set out to deep clean some closets and cabinets.  “A good weekend to KonMari,” I told Tom.  To which he replied “Kon-what?”  “Time to tidy-up and de-clutter.  Bring on the Joy!”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018

    Sex: Spontaneous or Planned . . . Let the Conversation Begin

    January 4, 2021

    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Finances,  Forgiveness,  Sex

    The 7 Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage

    June 3, 2019 / No Comments

    Here’s our ‘Short List’ of the things that have had the biggest impact on our marriage. 1. The 5 Love Languages – In this book, Dr Gary Chapman explains there are 5 basic love languages and we each have a primary “language.”  We might be knocking ourselves out trying to show our spouse we love them,

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    Ken and Janine

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    Heart Cards

    February 7, 2022

    Overcoming Apathy in our Marriage

    October 12, 2020

    Letters to Joy

    October 4, 2021
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Perseverance,  Stress

    Unmet Needs

    May 21, 2019 / No Comments

    We’ve been extra busy lately – on weekends and weekdays alike.  With everything that we committed to, there just hasn’t been much time for fun or relaxation. 

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    Mark and Mel

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    Time for a Marriage Getaway? “Here’s Yer Sign”

    October 28, 2019

    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020

    Go Anywhere, Do Anything

    June 9, 2025
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Married Singles

    May 6, 2019 / No Comments

    How do you find the right balance of couple time versus individual time? Sports, times with friends/co-workers, Facebook/Pinterest, hunting….  There are a lot of fun activities that can keep us busy – and distracted.  None of these activities are bad or wrong in themselves.  But… do they draw us slowly away from our spouse?

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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026

    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021

    Money Matters

    October 25, 2018
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Perseverance

    Marriage Takes Work – What Does That Mean Anyway?

    April 26, 2019 / No Comments

    We’ve heard cliché’s like “marriage takes work,” “communication is the key” and “love unconditionally.” What do they really mean? How do they play out in married life?

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    July 27, 2026
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    Choose Your Hard

    October 10, 2022

    Relationship Resolutions

    December 31, 2018
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019 / 2 Comments

    Photo Credit: Steve Halama You may have heard marriage described as a 50/50 proposition with each partner contributing 50% to equal the presumed goal of 100%.  While marriage is not a game, it is common to judge our effort like contestants in a competition.

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    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020

    The Empty Nest Repopulated – 4 Ways to make it Great!

    October 26, 2020

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Do you find yourself wondering, “What happened to us?!?!”  At some point, we all do.  We long for those days when we were dating and first married.  We were full of passion for each other and so in love.  Our lovemaking was frequent and passionate.  It seemed we couldn’t get enough of each other.  How did we get to a place where we were rubbing together like sandpaper, each doing our own thing?

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    Vulnerability

    Finding Joy Through Vulnerability

    August 28, 2023
    Trash Talk, arguing over chores

    Trash Talk

    June 20, 2021
    Couple on sofa discussing love languages

    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Yes, this is a strange twist.  We recently heard about James J Sexton’s book,“If You’re in My Office, It’s Already Too Late.”  James is a divorce attorney from New York, who started noticing some patterns after 20 years of working with couples whose marriages were ending.

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    Earning a Time Out

    August 11, 2020

    When In Doubt, Just Get Naked

    April 21, 2024

    Getting More of What You Want in Your Marriage

    February 21, 2021
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