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    Words – The Seeds of Life in Marriage

    July 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: Until recently, I figured it was fine for me to say whatever was on my mind as that meant I was being truthful and authentic with Stephanie. Then it dawned on me that some of those words are hurtful and have the potential to wound her.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Phones at the Dinner Table

    June 24, 2019

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019

    Tone of Voice

    July 16, 2018
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Tidying Up Your Marriage KonMari Style

    June 10, 2019 / No Comments

    Photo Credit: Jimmy Ofisia MF:  One rainy spring weekend we came to a new insight about clutter and our marriage  as we set out to deep clean some closets and cabinets.  “A good weekend to KonMari,” I told Tom.  To which he replied “Kon-what?”  “Time to tidy-up and de-clutter.  Bring on the Joy!”

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    8 Misunderstandings That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

    July 19, 2020

    Dream a Little Dream With Me

    August 3, 2020

    The Healing Power of Touch

    July 22, 2024
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Finances,  Forgiveness,  Sex

    The 7 Best Things We’ve Done for Our Marriage

    June 3, 2019 / No Comments

    Here’s our ‘Short List’ of the things that have had the biggest impact on our marriage. 1. The 5 Love Languages – In this book, Dr Gary Chapman explains there are 5 basic love languages and we each have a primary “language.”  We might be knocking ourselves out trying to show our spouse we love them,

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    Ken and Janine

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    Changing Our Dance and Learning to Love It

    July 6, 2020

    Finding Peace

    August 30, 2026

    3 Tips to Make Your Marriage Thrive

    August 20, 2019
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Perseverance,  Stress

    Unmet Needs

    May 21, 2019 / No Comments

    We’ve been extra busy lately – on weekends and weekdays alike.  With everything that we committed to, there just hasn’t been much time for fun or relaxation. 

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    Mark and Mel

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    June 7, 2021
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    To Be, or Not To Be…Right?

    September 8, 2025

    Earning a Time Out

    August 11, 2020
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Married Singles

    May 6, 2019 / No Comments

    How do you find the right balance of couple time versus individual time? Sports, times with friends/co-workers, Facebook/Pinterest, hunting….  There are a lot of fun activities that can keep us busy – and distracted.  None of these activities are bad or wrong in themselves.  But… do they draw us slowly away from our spouse?

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    Ken and Janine

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    Marriage is a VERB

    March 11, 2019
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    Us Against the World

    August 22, 2021

    5 Reasons You Need a Getaway Without Kids

    January 8, 2024
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Perseverance

    Marriage Takes Work – What Does That Mean Anyway?

    April 26, 2019 / No Comments

    We’ve heard cliché’s like “marriage takes work,” “communication is the key” and “love unconditionally.” What do they really mean? How do they play out in married life?

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    Boosting the Bright Side

    July 26, 2021

    How to Resolve Disagreements in Marriage

    June 30, 2025

    Is It Wrong To Feel This Way?

    January 7, 2019
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Marriage ScoreCard

    April 8, 2019 / 2 Comments

    Photo Credit: Steve Halama You may have heard marriage described as a 50/50 proposition with each partner contributing 50% to equal the presumed goal of 100%.  While marriage is not a game, it is common to judge our effort like contestants in a competition.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    What is Love Asking of Me Now?

    May 6, 2024

    Slamming Cupboard Doors

    August 28, 2018

    The Rituals of Connection

    August 13, 2024
  • Communication,  Decision to Love

    What Happened to Our Passion?

    April 1, 2019 / No Comments

    Do you find yourself wondering, “What happened to us?!?!”  At some point, we all do.  We long for those days when we were dating and first married.  We were full of passion for each other and so in love.  Our lovemaking was frequent and passionate.  It seemed we couldn’t get enough of each other.  How did we get to a place where we were rubbing together like sandpaper, each doing our own thing?

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    Ken and Janine

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    April 26, 2019
    Common marriage mistakes

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    March 23, 2026

    Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Individuality

    October 4, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love

    Advice From a Divorce Lawyer

    March 4, 2019 / 1 Comment

    Yes, this is a strange twist.  We recently heard about James J Sexton’s book,“If You’re in My Office, It’s Already Too Late.”  James is a divorce attorney from New York, who started noticing some patterns after 20 years of working with couples whose marriages were ending.

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    Ken and Janine

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    Marriage Manners Matter

    June 17, 2019
    Taking the Back Roads to a More Intimate Marriage

    Taking The Back Roads

    July 15, 2024

    So Over COVID!

    May 25, 2020
  • Decision to Love,  Parenting,  Stress

    In-Laws or Outlaws?

    February 26, 2019 / No Comments

    Paul: For many married couples, in-laws can be a source of great stress and discontent. We are fortunate that our experience has been very different. When we were first married, I really appreciated how my parents treated Stephanie like their own daughter. They engaged her in meaningful conversation, sought out her opinion about things, and made it a point to include her in all family events.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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