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  • Communication

    What Language are You Speaking?

    September 24, 2018 / No Comments

    We’ve all been there…We’re doing or saying something to show our spouse we love them, and they don’t even notice!

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    Ken and Janine

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    October 7, 2019

    Parenting 101 – United We Stand

    October 29, 2019

    We’re Not Perfect and That’s Normal

    May 18, 2020
  • Communication,  Romance,  Sex

    What is Sexy?

    September 6, 2018 / 2 Comments

    We have been married for over 24 years and our attraction to each other is as strong as ever.  So, we asked ourselves what has been our secret to lasting passion in our marriage?  Sex appeal can be very subjective.  What is sexy to one is  not to another.  How do we navigate these preferences within our marriage?  What can we do to make sure our marital sexual relationship is filled with blazing passion that lasts?  If you are on the edge of your seat waiting for the answer, you are in for a treat.

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    Mark and Mel

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    There’s An App For That!

    November 19, 2018

    What is Love Asking of Me Now?

    May 6, 2024

    Marriage Under Quarantine

    March 23, 2020
  • Communication

    Slamming Cupboard Doors

    August 28, 2018 / No Comments

    I used to slam cupboard doors.  Ken would ask, “Is something wrong?” and many times I would honestly not know the answer to his question.  I’m embarrassed to admit I was SO unaware of my own emotions. I didn’t know myself well enough to be able to understand what was going on inside of me.

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    Ken and Janine

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    July 18, 2022

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    December 3, 2023
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    Just. Do. It. Part II

    November 9, 2026
  • Communication,  Decision to Love

    Empathy, Is It Contagious? For You Baby…

    August 21, 2018 / No Comments

    Destination Weddings are a trend.  Mary Frances and I attended one on the Mexican Riviera that was wonderful.  It is ironic though to plan and celebrate a wedding as a destination when marriage, like graduation is the commencement of a life-long journey.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Anger, Over the Top

    July 15, 2019

    Radical non-Parenting

    November 9, 2020

    8 Ideas to Help Settle Disagreements in Marriage

    October 19, 2020
  • Communication,  Conflict

    Forgiveness & Healing

    August 13, 2018 / 1 Comment

    Sustaining a joy-filled marriage is hard work. When two people get married and live together, the challenges of everyday life start adding up. Between our different personalities, the demands of work, raising children, extended family, married couples can occasionally get on each other’s nerves.  It’s inevitable that eventually we’re going to bump into each other and cause some hurts between us. When this happens, we need forgiveness and healing to repair our  relationship.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    The World Turned Upside-Down

    October 13, 2025

    Making Up is Hard to Do

    June 21, 2018
  • Communication,  Romance

    I Will ROMANCE You Every Day of My Life

    July 25, 2018 / No Comments

    Ahh, Romance!  You may be thinking wine, roses, candle light dinners and such.  Every day would get pretty expensive.  Let’s call that dating — more about that in another post.  Dating involves an invitation — that is half the fun. Romance is simple and spontaneous.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    Tidying Up Your Marriage KonMari Style

    June 10, 2019

    A Love That Surprises and Remembers

    February 10, 2020

    We Don’t Talk about That

    February 3, 2025
  • Communication

    Tone of Voice

    July 16, 2018 / No Comments

    Something that we’ve become increasingly aware of in our marriage is how our tone of voice so significantly affects our communication – for better or for worse! It is remarkable how something so seemingly small can make such a huge impact on whether our communication is healthy, productive, and enriching or debilitating, disheartening, and provocative. Believe it or not, tone of voice is huge. WE would go as far as to say tone of voice is at the root of most of the small hurts we experience in our relationship.

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    Paul and Stephanie

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    August 11, 2020

    Ready for a Marriage Check-up?

    February 16, 2026

    3 Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress

    November 14, 2022
  • Communication,  Decision to Love,  Romance

    It’s Not About the Dress

    July 6, 2018 / 2 Comments

    The wedding venue, the dress, the flowers, the photographer…when did all this get to be so important?  

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    Ken and Janine

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    September 28, 2026

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Time

    Making Up is Hard to Do

    June 21, 2018 / No Comments

    Every married couple has conflicts- sometimes over the littlest things. Most conflicts are a result of our unmet expectations– I expected this, but instead that happened. We begin to feel hurt or disappointed. We begin to think we’re disrespected or that we’re unloved.

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    Ken and Janine

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    July 15, 2019
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    What’s Your Spouse’s Love Language? 

    June 22, 2026

    5 Lessons for a Howl of a Good Time

    June 14, 2021
  • Communication,  Conflict,  Decision to Love,  Time

    TGIF!

    April 4, 2018 / No Comments

    Tom and I can say “TGIF!” with very different ideas of what that might look like especially as Friday unfolds into Saturday and Sunday.  I need the weekend to get caught up on stuff and slip in a good workout to make up for slack time during the week.  If I approach the weekend with the attitude “I am the only one that gets anything done around here” and paint Tom as “Mr Slouch” it is pretty unlikely he will enjoy pitching in to help.

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    Tom and Mary Frances

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    June 15, 2020

    Affirmations That Will Make Your Heart Soar!

    November 11, 2019
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    Sex — Naughty or Nice?

    June 27, 2021
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