3 Ways to Date Your Spouse

Michelle:

As a couple, if we do not continue to pursue one another, we could wake up one day to find that we have become roommates.  The foundation of our relationship was built on friendship and romance.  Here are three easy ways that we have come up with to continue to nourish that foundation.

1. Look for Opportunities to Connect:

When we were dating, Chris was constantly calling me, asking me to go grab a drink with him or even simply ride a bike together or take a walk.  After we got married and started raising our family, our connections went from intentional time to be together and check in, to reviewing our schedules to make sure we were on the same page about the weekly events.  One evening, while we were sitting on the couch together, Chris sent me a text saying, “Wanna go for a walk?”  That night, we walked and talked about anything and everything and have been taking nightly walks as often as we can, ever since.

Chris:

2. Let Them Know You’re Thinking About Them: 

When we were dating, our relationship began in a notebook.  Every night, I would write Michelle a letter in a notebook, letting her know what I was thinking about, how much I loved her and whatever else came to mind.  I would give Michelle that notebook the following morning where she would read my letter during lunchtime.  She would write me a letter and pass me back the notebook at the end of the day.  This notebook was a constant reminder to us that we were continuously in each other’s thoughts.  Recently, Michelle and I realized that on those really busy days, we see each other briefly in the morning and then not again until she comes home from work.  That means that we could go ten hours or more without letting the other know that they are on our minds.  We have made it a point now to send a text or do a quick call, just to let each other know they are thought about and loved.  

3. Never Underestimate the Power of Physical Touch:

When I think back to when we were dating, I remember always wanting to hold Michelle’s hand, get and give her a hug or just cuddle with her while watching a movie.  But, if I am being honest, today I strive to have my hands on her even more.  I like to hold her hand or put my hand on her leg when I drive, and I love when she snuggles up to me on the couch to watch a movie. I want to be the guy that still gives his wife butterflies when I touch her, so I practice as much as I can!

Michelle:

As the newest iPhone just recently dropped, we hope you can apply the words I recently heard from a comedian about dating his girlfriend to dating your spouse.  He said, “Dating my girlfriend is like getting a new cell phone.  I don’t know all the features, but I’m excited to try and figure them out.”